Firstly I want to give you the biggest virtual ((((((hug)))))). You are doing an amazing thing b/f your baby and looking after your family. I have b/f and co-slept with all my children. DD1 b/f 20 months D/S 2 1/2 years DD2 3 years and DD3 16 months and still feeding.
My DH didn't really want our DD2 who was our third, he said it was because he did not have the ability to do it and there is 7 years between her and our DS (DH has ASD and other sensory issues going on). Initially He didn't really bond with her and barley helped me with her. It's like he used it as an excuse that he told me he wouldn't be able to cope so he couldn't help me. How convinient for him. Now (she is 4 nearly 5) he loves her and they have bonded. My DH has always been supportive of b/f so it must be tough for you without his support in this department.
I hear you loud and clear about needing a break it can be full on with a toddler and other children. I think I am about to have a nervous break down at the moment. Yes I have 4 kids (my choice) but I need a bit of respite too. I am also thinking of getting a cleaner come just to do a basic clean of my house each week as I am struggling I don't seem to be getting much more than the washing cooking and dishes done each day. My DH is waiting on an eye operation so can not look after the younger children presently. I have no family or any friends who could help me out where I live in rural Tasmania.
Once on solids b/f toddlers can go all day without a bf so this is a bad excuse on his part, I went back to work with my first two when they were both under one and DH looked after them and they were b/f.
I am thinking about putting my youngest in child care 1 day a week just to give me some respite before I end up in the looney bin, is this something you could do? I am still contemplating it. I would rather they be talking before they go into care and my 16 month old gets very sick and ends up in hospital just about everytime she gets a respitory illness (it come to our house anyway thanks to the older kids).
I am thinking of night time weaning soon my DD is getting a bit full on at the moment in that department. What I did in the past was offer them water when they woke up (in case they were thirsty) and told them that they had to wait until the sun came up before I fed them. It is tough but you know you will get their in the end.
Can someone please enlighten me as to who the WHO recommendation of 2 years and beyond is ??. First I have ever hear of this.
I think it is utter cr@p about dads not bonding with a baby while they are B/F clearly it is the indervidual Dad that has the problem because so many other dads don't have this issue at all. "They just want their wife back" we'll news flash they will never get their wife back to the way it was before children because they are a family now, they simply have to share their wife now, things have changed. Some dads are amazing and cook and clean and help out so much that perhaps their wives have more time for them (unfortunatly this is not my DH).