I bf all my kids. Dd1 22months, ds 15mths, dd2 is 2 and still bf.
Last bub unplanned and me and dp have had issues in our relationship ever since - he favoured an early termination. It's taken a long time for him to really accept her. It's not an exaggeration to say he practically ignored her for the first year of her life.
Anyways. About 8 months ago I was struggling and asked him to take a day off work to give me a day off. He refused unless I weaned her. This came out of nowhere but as I tried to discuss he said he'd said a few months back it might be time. He was really nasty to me. Accusing me of making her dependent on me. Saying he couldn't look after her for this reason. She was eating well and could go for hours without boob. He was making no sense but I think he was angry because I didn't give up when he had suggested and so it being harder at that age was my fault for not listening to him or being like everyone else and weaning at 6/12 months. It was a horrible time, I cried so much didn't think we could carry on together and he refused to see a counsellor.
Anyways. Things got better due to me just getting on with things and him starting to be kinder again. But we never resolved this and he never apologised. He never does. So now she's 2 and still quite a boobie monster. Her sleep is bad. We cosleep as we have no bedroom for her - long story involves someone moving downstairs. I coslept with other kids til around 12 months for ease of breastfeeding. She had started looking for feeds every hour or 2 so I've started night weaning. It's only been a week and I think it's going well. I let her feed around 5am and most nights she's ok to have a cuddle instead. Last night she slept through until 4 but then really wanted boobie. I was trying to extend to 6 so did my boobie sleeping have boobie later etc. she was more angry than usual. Next thing dp says I think you have to take away boobie altogether. I said nothing. Fed her about 4.45 and she slept soundly til 7. Me on the other hand couldn't sleep. I've been flashed right back to those fights months ago and his unreasonable behaviour. Makes me want to leave. Sounds extreme but I'm so sick of being blamed for her bad sleep. His out this morning thankfully cus I can barely look at him. I'd be happy to stop breastfeeding but I don't believe cold turkey would be good for dd2. And I am the one whose home all day with her. I can't cope with the everyday stuff with 3 kids, house, school etc this is not a good time for me to be deal with a 2 year old in withdrawal!!!