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    Default almost 15-weeks pregnant - tricky work situation

    I have been with the same company for three years and had a really rough time of it. Despite the fact I have more experience and education than anyone in the team I was in, including my boss, I was treated like a junior and bullied the entire time.

    Finally managed to get out a few months ago to a much better section at the same company, but the damage was done. Opportunities come and go but I've never been considered and still on the same terrible wage since I started. I took the position I'm in now out of desperation. It's a career change I didn't want to have to make. I definitely get more respect in my new position but don’t really see the potential for more pay and feel my prospects are limited. The bully could target me in my new job too.

    Anyway, I am almost 15-weeks pregnant and have held off telling work because I found out I was pregnant just before I started the new job. I wanted to prove myself first and try to shake off some of the bad reputation manufactured by the bully, which I have done.

    Here's the kicker. I have been headhunted for a better job that much better relates to my interests and education. It's part-time, but pays about 10k more than the job I'm in pro rata. I would be out about $200 a week but almost certain I can make that up and more with freelancing work from home. It has a childcare centre on site, a flexible arrangement so I can work from home at times, and yearly increment rises as well as pay reviews. There are many benefits and I can see other career opportunities may open for me there too. My company now offers none of those things. I would forfeit mat leave if I leave my company but the new job would be better for work-baby balance in general, as well as my career which is very important to me.

    It’s not certain they will offer me the job. However, when they first approached me they told me I was top of their list of those they contacted. I will have to tell them I’m pregnant, just not sure at which point. With interviews etc ahead I would be about six months pregnant by the time I would start!

    I feel I should tell them in the interview, perhaps right at the end, in the hope I will have sold myself well enough for them to not discriminate based on my situation. Because it’s in education it closes for some weeks over Christmas, and they encourage staff to take leave over the school holidays. At least this is what my research has told me. I am due around Christmas so perhaps my leave would be well-timed for them. Another reason for worry is I would be on six-months' probation that would end while I would be on leave which is not ideal. I’ve never failed a probation period. In fact, I've never really had any job problems like those I have had to experience at my current workplace and have instead usually been highly valued, but it’s an added element of uncertainty, particularly in this economy.

    Sorry, this is a really long post. I know many would say not to take the risk, that moving from a permanent full-time job to probationary position in a part-time job is not a clever move, especially being the main breadwinner in the house and with a mortgage to pay and baby on the way, but I am torn. Any advice for me, ladies? I’d be interested to know if any of you have been in the same/similar position.
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    Working in a job you are miserable in is also not a great long term plan though.
    Some things to consider:
    - Would another opportunity like this come up again?
    - Could the new company potentially have a position for you after you were ready to return from mat leave at your current job?
    - Can you manage on just the government PPL if you were to change?

    The potential benefits are far greater to move, it's just sucky timing in terms of when your mat leave would fall. I would tell them in the interview and discuss possibilities including the probation issue. But that's just me - I'd feel anxious keeping it back. I know they aren't supposed to discriminate based on pregnancy, but we all know that many places do.

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    At the very least go through the interview process - you'll kick yourself if you don't! You may not get it, stay at your old job and at least have mat leave and a job to go back to.
    But you might get it and be sooo much happier for the duration of your pregnancy and that means a lot. Along with all the perks (and they sound amazing) they will probably have you back after mat leave then you're set for a great future - good luck!! Xox

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    Honestly, I would the decision out of my own hands at the end of the day. Go to the interview, discuss the pregnancy and let them decide. It's only going to go one of the two ways anyway.
    Also, if you change your mind or the answers you get aren't suitable, you can always turn down the new job. But you can't take it if you don't apply

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    I would say go to your first interview, hear more about the role. At the end you tell them you're pregnant and take it from there. It's unfortunate that it will be a factor, there's nothing we can do about that. You can't force them to hire you but you can convince them of your commitment to the job.

    On the topic of changing jobs, if you get offered this job, I say grab it with both hands. I have been in some miserable jobs before and it's unhealthy. Your life is not ending, you're just taking a break from work to care for your baby.

    Regarding maternity leave, I have been with my company for 2 years and get unpaid maternity leave so to me that's irrelevant if you don't even like working there. And if you don't get this new job, work out your time there and a few months before you're due to return to work, look around to see if there are any better opportunities. Maybe ask this potential employer if they are happy for you to stay in touch when you're ready to go back to work, in case they have an opportunity available.

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    I agree with previous posters. Go to the interview and at the end tell them your pregnant. I'd present it in a way that shows you've thought through how you can minimise the impact maternity leave would have rather than just saying "I'm pregnant" and leaving it at that. For example "I think it's only fair to let you know I'm pregnant. However, I believe my maternity leave would work well with the quiet December period. I'm very keen to take on this role should I be given the opportunity and I would definitely be looking to return to work after my leave period." If that's all true of course. Any other examples you can give of why you being pregnant shouldn't stand in your way, throw those in to!

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    Thanks for all your posts, ladies. Really heartening to hear your interest and advice.

    Sadly just discovered I wasn't successful, so extremely disappointed. The thought of staying in my current job is pretty depressing.

    Still, I hope my husband's work situation picks up so we can survive on PPL longer and I can stay home with the bub longer. Will definitely be on the lookout for something better then. I just hope the job market opens up a bit because these sorts of opportunities don't come along very often.

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    So sorry to hear! At least now you can be sure that you want to move on otherwise you wouldn't feel disappointed. You'll have plenty quiet days at home with baby to hunt for something to go back to, for now just push through and try not to let it stress you out

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    Well at least you tried AND you got shortlisted

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