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    Default Help, what am I doing wrong????

    Hi All
    Im new to BubHub and hoping I can get some help from you all.

    DH and I have been trying for the last 2 months, June makes it the 3rd month.

    My AF cycles vary - some months it could be 33 days, others 30....so trying to pinpoint the exact date to try is hard but Im working on it.

    According to my app, it gives a rough week of trying - which we have been going by.
    Now Im 10 days before my cycle and have been waiting to test and I did this morning, but it was stating I wasnt pregnant....

    Am I doing it all wrong? To top this all off Im stressed, my GP has left the clinic and Im wanting to fall pregnant ASAP!


    Hopefully someone can help me...

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    Hi,
    Even if you time DTD perfectly, you still only have around a 25% chance of success each month.

    As a starting point, I'd be aiming to DTD every second day at a minimum, during your fertile week.

    For me, I found using fertility friend to chart my temperature helped me to work out my cycle, and pinpoint O (after the fact).

    With my first, we were doing all the right things and she still took 9 cycles to conceive.

    Try not to stress about it

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    As hard as it may be not to worry - you've only been trying 2 months. It's quite normal for women to take up to 12 months to get pregnant.

    Don't rely on an app to tell you when to DTD - women don't always ovulate according to plan. Charting your cycle and using an ovulation prediction kit (OPK) to detect when you are physically ovulating, may help speed things up.

    Good luck

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    Ten days before your cycle wouldn't show on a pregnancy test. At best maybe 5 days before your period is due but you really can't be certain it's negative until your period comes.

    Definitely try and pinpoint your ovulation. Maybe do some reading up on different techniques.

    How old are you? Two months of trying isn't anything to worry about unless you're over 38.

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    Reiterating what most have said:
    - it's normal for it to take up to 12 months to fall pregnant
    - if you really want to pinpoint ovulation better you need to chart your cycle, take basal body temps, chart cervical mucous, use OPK's etc.
    - 10 days before your cycle starts is way too early to detect a pregnancy. That's roughly 4 days after ovulation so it hasn't even implanted yet and can't be releasing Hcg in your system.

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    I do have a question or two. How old are you? And have you had any gyno issues in the past? This may change my answer slightly.

    But as a general rule - it can take time to get pregnant. I wouls use OPL's (as long as you do not have PCO/PCOS) as well as temps. This is due to slightly irregular periods you mentioned. Also as a general rule it may be easier for a FS to help if they know whats going on with charting.

    Finally, try and relax.

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    You're not doing anything wrong. As other posters have said, many people take around 12 months to fall pregnant. By using OPK's or charting your basal body temperature, you should be able to pinpoint when you are ovulating in your cycle. But catching the right time definitely doesn't guarantee a pregnancy will result, even if nothing is wrong. As Lil Smurfy said, there's only a 25% chance each month that you'll fall pregnant.

    If you're over 35, you may be able to get a referral to see a fertility specialist once you've been trying for 6 months, but generally, a GP will tell you too come back and see them after you've been trying for 12 months with no success.

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    Thank you all for your feedback, think I need to go back to see one of the GPs....Im so down at the moment....just want it more than anything....

    Thanks I will stay in touch x

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    Haven't read all responses but I agree with everyone who says try not to stress, it will do no good! I set my mind to minimum 6 months, we were lucky enough to conceive quite quickly and I put it down to taking my BBT (special thermometer to record your temp first thing in the morning). It can be just as stressful but it was so accurate for me that I was only going to do it for 2 months to get an idea of ovulation.

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    Hun, a couple of months is nothing. Just remember if you go to your gp they will most likely not be able to do anything for you as you've been through 2 cycles only. If it where 12months which is generally normal then you would be referred most likely to a specialist. Stressing about wanting a baby doesn't help you and your body achieve. You need to be relaxed about the entire process and not think about anything at all.

    How old are you though as it has been asked by some of the ladies here but you haven't given them an answer


 

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