I think need to start waking her earlier so she will sleep earlier.
Be consistent like kitty said
My DS is 9. Bedtime is 8/830. I'll lay and cuddle with him for a while. But sometimes he is still awake at 930pm, walking in and out and it drives me crazy to the point I want to hide so he'll go to sleep. But you put him at my mums for the night. Lights out at 830 he is asleep by 835 ! Gets up between 730 and 810 each morning.
Yep...she is totally pulling your chain! Sounds like you have found her currency. I would also be waking her at the usual time to get ready for school, otherwise you are just setting her body clock to go to bed later and get up later. Yeah she'll be a bit more tired in the day for a few days but will adjust and be more tired in the evening.
My 4yo goes to bed at 7 - lights out by 7.30
10yo - lights out by 8.30
13yo - lights out by 9.30
My evening me time us absolutely imperative!! It's the only time I have!
We have an only child not by choice. We have secondary infertility and I watched Jessica Rowe seek help on tv for child same age with same sleep issues. Psych told her that if your child is stealing your sleep time & busting for night attention, you need to look at work. As in, how much time are you at home. For me it hit home as I am a full time worker and don't see my son before I leave each day. DH does drop off at school. (Oh my how 2016 of me!) I work in a corporate world as main breadwinner and my son and I are busting to see each other every day. So if he stays up late for mum time, blah.. So be it. If I wasn't in an infertile position, then I wouldn't have advanced so far at work. Infertile's make great workers, except during an IVF cycle when we need some time out for egg pick up. But thats nothing compared to mat leave I guess!!
She wants her mum. Yeah she may be playing you and pushing boundaries, but she seems like she has realised she is on a good thing with mum time and wants more. But boundaries are underrated. So find that middle ground and let me know what to do!!
My 9 year old sounds very similar. My kids don't get to sleep til 10/11pm.. But they don't need to be up so early (not every day anyway).. But I'm assuming your daughter goes to school so she would need a decent amount of sleep.
How is she in the morning? Is she grumpy for not sleeping enough? What time is she getting up?
My kids are in bed by 10...asleep by 11. On their early days they wake at 8 (if they have things they're doing that morning) so that's 9 hours. They're able to nap if they're tired in the day too.
What does she do if she's up? Would she be happy to watch TV or read a book or something on the couch or does she want your attention from you constantly?
Could you lie down with her until she falls asleep?
There is no way I could lie down with her while she fell asleep. She wouldn't sleep. She'd talk or wriggle and I'd just get stressed.
after these school holidays I'm just going to be totally tough with it. I think it needs to happen for her to know where we both stand too.
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