I love my 10 year old niece, she is the sweetest little girl, so thoughtful and loving. But she wants a dad. She has no idea who her dad is and seems desperate for one. For example, she slept over last weekend and told me she was so excited because she can pretend that her uncle is her dad. She also went with her half-brother to visit his dad and apparently asked the dad if he was her father too. When father’s day comes around she just says her dad is dead. But he isn’t, he’s alive and well. He doesn’t know she exists either (as far as I'm led to believe).
She has a step dad but obviously the yearning for her real father is strong. I feel so bad for my niece. I don’t know why my SIL (DH's sister) refuses to tell her or him the truth. I will never interfere, I’m sure my SIL has her reasons, but to see and hear my niece talk the way she does breaks my heart. I just worry that if/when the truth comes out, if she’s older she may take it hard and rebel, whereas now I believe she will cope better.
It’s just not fair. My SIL knows who her dad is. Celebrates father’s day, birthdays, Christmas, etc with him, yet her daughter has not been allowed the same right/opportunity.
I hope she never asks me about her dad one day cos I have no idea what to say, except maybe to talk to her mum. I refuse to interfere but am torn because I just worry for her. There’s probably no point to this post, unless someone out there has been in a similar situation? I don’t know, my hands are tied. I may have a chat to my MIL but I know there is nothing else I can do for her except be there for her.