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    Default End Point - Taking on the last round of IVF.

    I wanted to see if anyone out there is contemplating their last IVF.

    How did you make that decision? How do you cope with that decision going into it?

    We are meeting with the FS tomorrow for our last ditch at IVF and ttc#2. We have secondary IF. Our son was 18 months old when we started ttc a sibling, and he is about to turn 9. Spent all of my 30's ttc, and now Im 39, I need closure. Enough is enough.

    Last dance, last chance.

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    me! After three years off and swearing we would never do it again we are giving it one last go starting soon eek. We said the last one was the last and it put so much pressure on the cycle I think the unsuccessful outcome hit us hard. Now that we have had a good break we are going into this cycle with no expectations and no pressure.

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    We are not there yet but are contemplating another/last go. We have had 5 naturally conceived pregnancies that all ended in miscarriage.

    We did a round of IVF in April where we got 5 eggs, 3 fertilised, 2 blasts but the one transferred did not take and the other was not suitable for biopsy or freezing.

    We are still trying naturally but it it is now nearly a year since we conceived so I don't think that will be happening.

    We are meeting with our fs on Friday to discuss things and I would say we will probably commit to going ahead with one last cycle. My husband keeps telling me not to draw a line in the sand but it has been going on for so long and am sick of having my babies snatched away from me. I think we need to focus our energies on the rest of our lives.
    @Billie2 good luck with your appointment today. I may have this wrong, but were you the lady that had a huge bleed after an egg collection? If so, that is very courageous to go again.

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    @calypso75 yeah thats me. Im insane I know. As they never found the cause or source of my haemorrhage they cant say I cant go back. Just back from our appt and its happening. Double transfer as well if by day 5 looks like Ill have none to freeze. My DH is petrified he may lose me and I am feeling so selfish going back, considering we have our DS8. But I need closure. We are all over it and I know I need to stop so I can move on & enjoy the blessed life we have.

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    All the best with it Billie. I don't think it is selfish. As you said you need to do it for closure as you don't know how the last cycle would have turned out had you not had the bleed.

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    It's always a hard decision to ha e closure on something as powerful as wanting children or more children. We where at your stage at the end of last year. After nearly 4 years of cycles and also trying naturally we gave it one last shot. It failed and then by miracle it happened naturally off the failed cycle. Miracles can happen. We where like meh if it will be it will be. My DS is 9 so I feel what your going through. Our FS couldn't believe it they where just as excited as we where. You never know what will happen with your situation just don't think about it anymore as it's less stressful on your body.

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    Thank you @babybeeno1 and @calypso75 for your comments. Its a big thing to stop when it is possible the end result wont be what you want it to be. Im nervous about my bleed but feel pretty good about it and trust the Dr's. They know my history.

    Our life is very easy at the moment with an independent 8yr old. Not sure what would be a bigger shock, not having a 2nd child or actually having a second child. You sometimes get so caught up in the fight of infertility you forget that it can actually happen and you could be faced with pooey nappies and sore nipps again.

    I want to find peace and believe this is the way to do it. xx

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    Me too. I posted something pretty similar in the over 40s thread yesterday. 4.5y/o DS moving towards independence is swaying me away from going back to the start again with a newborn. I'm starting to appreciate how good I've got it with just the one.
    We bought a puppy a month ago and out of the blue this morning DS initiated a mature conversation with me about the puppy being a replacement brother for him due to mummy's tummy not working properly to make him one. I was really proud of him!
    @Billie2 After your horrific haemorrhage you're very brave to go back again for a final roll of the dice. Kudos.
    PS: Thanks for the bleeding nipples reminder. Ouch.

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    @Tahli yep that is spot on. Going back to a newborn scares me. I catch myself asking if I really want to go back. Very mixed emotions, but I know it will help me move on if it doesn't work.

    As my son is at a Catholic school, its very family focused and he puts our puppy down as his sister when doing a family tree or writing about us. Having an only child is hard, but he doesn't know any different. When he was younger he'd ask for a sibling. He watches babies and big families on youtube. That breaks my heart.

    I may have a melt down getting into my scrubs for EPU and having a fear of a repeat blood loss. I guess I don't know how I will react so I may as well try. Im a pretty hard person. Ive seen alot of bad things in my old career. I know how to shut things out to get things done. I felt very ripped off last round. Im not on aspirin this time, no way in hell!

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    Tahli I haven't been on in a while and missed your post in the over 40's thread. Are you done or are you waiting till after August to make a decision? I thought you were seeing Wazza this month?


 

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