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    Default I let my 3 month old cry to sleep.

    Im absolutely exhausted. DH is overseas and this weekend was a complete battle with my 4 on my own. I'm trying so hard to implement rules that cater for the varying ages, but I'm finding I'm expecting a lot of my 9 year old. I need her help and she's still a child.

    This evening I wore bub while I prepped dinner. He's usually awake again at 5pm so when he stirred, I naturally took him out and sat him on my lap while we ate. He'll go back to sleep at 6.30. So I do our usual bath feed bed and he's not asleep. I pat for a good hour and he'll sleep but wake the moment I stop. Fast forward an hour later he's completely wired and chatting to the evaporative cooling vent and ceiling fan. I figure he'll sleep but he cries so I offer boob again, burp, check his hip brace, nappy, clothing etc and he's all good. I pat while he's screaming for half an hour and I had enough so I left him. He screamed blue murder for 10 mins and I did not go to him. He fell asleep.

    I feel absolutely dreadful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UmmInayah View Post
    Im absolutely exhausted. DH is overseas and this weekend was a complete battle with my 4 on my own. I'm trying so hard to implement rules that cater for the varying ages, but I'm finding I'm expecting a lot of my 9 year old. I need her help and she's still a child.

    This evening I wore bub while I prepped dinner. He's usually awake again at 5pm so when he stirred, I naturally took him out and sat him on my lap while we ate. He'll go back to sleep at 6.30. So I do our usual bath feed bed and he's not asleep. I pat for a good hour and he'll sleep but wake the moment I stop. Fast forward an hour later he's completely wired and chatting to the evaporative cooling vent and ceiling fan. I figure he'll sleep but he cries so I offer boob again, burp, check his hip brace, nappy, clothing etc and he's all good. I pat while he's screaming for half an hour and I had enough so I left him. He screamed blue murder for 10 mins and I did not go to him. He fell asleep.

    I feel absolutely dreadful.
    He is fine. He is loved and fed and clean and fine and asleep!
    HUGE hugs to you and be kind to yourself - you can't give anything as a mother if you've got nothing left to give.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    He is fine. He is loved and fed and clean and fine and asleep!
    HUGE hugs to you and be kind to yourself - you can't give anything as a mother if you've got nothing left to give.
    Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UmmInayah View Post
    Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that.
    You probably don't remember me at all but I was so pleased to start seeing you post again. You are doing it SO HARD right now to have four of such varying ages with such a variation in their needs and you're ALONE!
    You're a wonderful, fallible, amazing mum. I hope you can get some rest tonight xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    You probably don't remember me at all but I was so pleased to start seeing you post again. You are doing it SO HARD right now to have four of such varying ages with such a variation in their needs and you're ALONE!
    You're a wonderful, fallible, amazing mum. I hope you can get some rest tonight xx
    I do remember you! I wasn't sure anyone remembered me. Lol.

    Thank you for your kind words xx

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    Don't be hard on yourself, you are doing an excellent job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Olive Oil View Post
    Don't be hard on yourself, you are doing an excellent job.
    Thank you so much. I guess I don't always have to be there to watch his eyes close. It's horrible how us mums have so much guilt


 

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