I have always been happy to let miss 3yo fussy eating slide as I've read if you make a big deal of it and battle it just makes it worse. She's tiny (less than 3rd percentile) and has never been very interested in food.
However things are not improving. At all. Her diet is extremely limited and poor. It's embarrassing to take her somewhere such as MILs house and they have gone the extra mile to cook something I've told her she'll like and she will refuse to touch it. She won't even look at the food daycare offer choosing to go to bed instead.
Dh and me are starting to fight about it. We don't agree on what to do. Tonight he asked dd what she wanted and prepared a bacon toasted sandwich and some pear (she doesn't even like it but asked fit done). She took one bite of the toast and declared she was full. Rightly or wrongly he lost it. But it doesn't change anything. One night last week he tried to make her eat something and she just sat there bawling as he told her she was going straight to bed without books. She tried to eat it but she was upset and gagging. I had to leave and go in my room I was so upset by it all. He says it doesn't help I don't back him up.
I don't like the hard approach as I fought my mum for YEARS over dinner and often went to bed hungry. It achieved nothing. But at the same time dh says it's not about the food but bad behaviour by not at least trying something or asking for something and then not eating it, or refusing to eat something she likes and asks for something else a bit later.
She eats no meat, no fruit and minimal veg. She often likes something but then decides she doesn't after all and I throw away large volumes of food. I keep telling dh this is typical behaviour but he's saying it's neglect that we don't make her eat properly.
Does it get better? Am I doing the wrong thing by just letting it go? Dh is so angry right now at dd1 and me for being soft and letting her get away with it .
Eta: she's not underweight just small- I'm very petite myself and not a big eater either