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    It's not for me or my kids. We don't have any sensory issues etc. to worry about and we've just never done it. My kids are not allowed to run around wild at restaurants/pubs. We used to take a quiet toy, pencils and colouring in books when they were little...but now they are just part of the conversation. If we're in a big group they talk to their friends. Last year we went out for a friend's birthday to a restaurant...about 20 couples plus all the kids (lots of kids!...around 40). We had two loooonnnggggg tables set up. The adults all sat on one table, the kids all sat on another table. Not a device in sight. Kids and adults had fun, and kids were well behaved the whole time.
    If they get bored...so be it. Boredom is a part of life, they need to get used to it.
    Side note: We went out to adult events a lot as kids...and we were expected to sit at the table the whole time. My parent's were very strict on it. Perhaps this is why I figure my kids can behave in restaurants without needing electronics to cure their boredom...because it was expected of me as a child? I am pretty old fashioned, though...our electronic time is restricted at home, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I'd still take all the colouring toys etc and bring them out. I'm constantly amazed at how kids are actually quite happy to play with that sort of thing if it's available. Keep the iPad in the car for an emergency.

    Honestly when I had only one or 2 kids I'd bring so much stuff with us but now I have 4 I'm just grateful to get out of the house in one piece.
    Maybe it's just me, but I couldn't think of anything more stressful than bringing toys to a restaurant. Knowing my luck, DD would probably have a meltdown when I don't bring the rights ones.

    I find the novelty factor lasts longer with an iPad too, as we only tend to use them quite sparingly at home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    Often kids that don't cope well in big groups or social situations are very good at playing alone or in small groups. In fact they may even prefer it. Just because they use screens and headphones while they are out doesn't mean they use them 24/ 7.
    Yes I agree but in the OPs example there were 6 children. It would be a massive coincidence if they all social anxiety / sensory issues / ASD etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyno1onboard View Post
    Yes I agree but in the OPs example there were 6 children. It would be a massive coincidence if they all social anxiety / sensory issues / ASD etc.
    Not really. It happens.
    4 out my 6 have. 2 of my sisters 4.
    My kids tend to hang out with other kids that do. In fact all 6 have friends with them too.
    When you have a child on spectrum you tend to hang with others that understand.

    My point in that post was in general why some kids use ipads and not running around in a social situation. As the poster I quoted had said seeing kids on pads was a sign that those kids had to much screen time. I was pointing out that is not necessary so.

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    It makes me feel very thankful that I live in a teeny town where "roaming" is still a thing. My kids are only small but they are generally in the company of older kids, up to about 12yo or so, and on the rare occasion we go to the club for various events, it's just expected that all the kids will go off outside together. They don't leave the grounds and are easy enough to check on but if you go outside, all you see is kids running around and playing and whatnot. No devices in sight. I can't even be sure that any of the kids even have iPads. They aren't the culture here. It was a big determining factor when we were choosing where to live.

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    My kids have been bored plenty of times. But an adult function in a pub is one place I would make sure they weren't bored.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sally1981 View Post
    Thanks guys, it's tough isn't it? It was an adult birthday in a large function room at the back of a pub. Everyone knew each other and the kids are all growing up together. No other patrons in the area and it was very casual, no tables etc.

    We arrived with matchbox cars, puzzles, books crayons and paper. If DS was older I probably would have brought cards and board games. That's what I did growing up!

    I'm being naive aren't I?
    Haven't read the other comments but i think because of the venue the other parents may have been concerned that kids running around in the same place as potentially alcohol affected adults wasn't a good idea. My kids would be investigating the whole pub if i didn't give them something to entertain them for a long period of time so i probably would have done the same thing and brought some device along.

    If it's a kids party or playdate then it would be inappropriate to let them play on a screen. I'd never allow my kids to ignore another child who is there to play.

    I don't think you should be worried that all social interaction between children is a thing of the past. It's not. Every party we hold at our house involves large hoards of kids screaming through the house and having a great time. But at a pub... sitting down quietly is what I'd encourage too ☺

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    It's not for me or my kids. We don't have any sensory issues etc. to worry about and we've just never done it. My kids are not allowed to run around wild at restaurants/pubs. We used to take a quiet toy, pencils and colouring in books when they were little...but now they are just part of the conversation. If we're in a big group they talk to their friends. Last year we went out for a friend's birthday to a restaurant...about 20 couples plus all the kids (lots of kids!...around 40). We had two loooonnnggggg tables set up. The adults all sat on one table, the kids all sat on another table. Not a device in sight. Kids and adults had fun, and kids were well behaved the whole time.
    If they get bored...so be it. Boredom is a part of life, they need to get used to it.
    Side note: We went out to adult events a lot as kids...and we were expected to sit at the table the whole time. My parent's were very strict on it. Perhaps this is why I figure my kids can behave in restaurants without needing electronics to cure their boredom...because it was expected of me as a child? I am pretty old fashioned, though...our electronic time is restricted at home, too.
    This is my answer pretty much word for word.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sally1981 View Post
    I have a 3yo DS. We allow him to each TV at home and don't limit it that much. He's out for most of each day anyway. He never uses an iPad although DH is going to set some time each week to show him how to use one because we don't want him to start school without being on top of that.

    My issue is iPads at social events. We recently attended a small gathering with friends. There were about 6 other kids around DS' age and a bit older. At that stage he was an only child and was really excited about seeing his friends. When we got there the other kids spent the whole time sitting in a line playing iPads. The whole time. DS started trying to talk to them and then started attention seeking behaviour. The other kids asked us to take him away so they could play their games. I felt really bad for my DS.

    Is this usual for kids aged 4-7? I'm not exactly judging the other parents for bringing iPads to an event where there's lots of kids, but at the same time I don't really want my kids playing on an iPad at social occasions when other kids are there. If it's going to be like that one, though, I really don't see any other choice or he's going to be left out.

    I guess I'm just disappointed. Where's the social interaction?
    I haven't read the thread but just to respond to you.
    I see this so often and in my opinion screen time while out is taking it too far. It is my pet hate to be honest. My boys have limited screen time including tv, ipad and playstation at home and have days they aren't allowed on their ipads or playstation. We don't allow them to take their ipads when we go out. We don't want them sitting in a corner being unsociable. We have a group of friends who are the same when we are out, no ipads. While I think it's important they know how to use technology it should be limited. Dh and I are old fashioned though, we were out riding our bikes, climbing trees, playing chasey etc and we encourage the same for the boys. We find the kids are good while out, they all tend to make their own fun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    Side note: We went out to adult events a lot as kids...and we were expected to sit at the table the whole time. My parent's were very strict on it. Perhaps this is why I figure my kids can behave in restaurants without needing electronics to cure their boredom...because it was expected of me as a child? I am pretty old fashioned, though...our electronic time is restricted at home, too.
    I dare your kids being older and not having any 'issues' is a key factor in being able to behave themselves without electronics when out?

    I'm a bit confused by the double standards with kids and adults using screens (not directed at you specifically, just a general observation).

    If adult parents can use smart phones and the Internet to entertain themselves nowdays why can't kids? What is so wrong with a bit of technology in certain circumstances - as long as it (like everything else) is in moderation?

    If a kid using an I-pad for an hour or so while adults are trying to have a relaxing time is detrimental to their learning how to behave/socialise, then why isn't it detrimental for their parent to spend a bunch of time on bub hub (surely that impedes real life social interaction too?). Why is one tut-tutted but not the other?

    If a kid needs to go screen free to teach them how to deal with boredom, then does the same rule apply to their parent? Do parents force themselves to just sit on the lounge for an hour a day with no TV it smart phone, so they can appreciate being bored?

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