Ipads a very common tool used for kids with asd, adhd, spd and a lot of other invisible disorders. The common one is noise cancelling headphones or for those of us that can't afford the noise cancelling just regular headphones. So if you see a child or a adult wearing them in public or in a place you might think it is rude. It might just be a tool so that person can function in that space.
Of course there are a million other tools that can look out of place but these 2 devices often get the user or the parent of the user being judged and often attacked either verbally or physically.
I and my kids have had people have a go at us many times for using such devices.
I have not had to take an ipad out to an event for DS (he is only 3 though) but if it was an event that had no entertainment for the kids then I have no issue with taking an ipad or similar. He usually prefers his cars/paw patrol stuff atm though.
Re Ipads at shops - I am lucky my DS liked/still likes going to the shops so does not need entertainment at the shops. But I remember when he was younger I met a mother who had a child that was 3 or 4 and was watching peppa pig on an ipad. Her mum was telling me it was the only way she could get shopping done. Is it such a bad/wrong thing? If it keeps a child calm and a parent calm then how does it affect you?
Ds2 now wears them in class with nothing attached to help cut down the noise of the other children. He was driving the poor teacher batty because he could concentrate if the classroom got too loud for him which in reality was a acceptable level. It doesn't cancel all the noise it just dulls it.
I get where your coming from OP. I think it's a bit sad that the kids are not making an effort to socialise with each other. Even if it's not a 'running around' type area not all kids activities involve running around.
I find it even sadder when adults are out having having a meal and do the same thing 😳
iPhone / iPads are great inventions, I do sometimes think though that they are overused and I hope don't impact this generations socialising skills.
As for long car drives, shopping trips, meals out with no other kids around, trying to keep a baby still to do a nappy change - they are a godsend!
I'm with you OP, I can't stand seeing kids all lined up on devices, ignoring each other instead of playing and talking.
Pubs, clubs, parties, picnics, restaurants, adults events, kids events... we all survived somehow? We actually had to find other kids, and *gasp* make friends and make up games. We could make up games out of nothing. There was always something to do. No wonder kids get so bored so easily these days; they're not given enough opportunity to develop their imaginations and social skills.
These days kids don't live that free life. I let my kids roam and I have a helpful parent bring them back to me. So I don't even try anymore. Yes I bring colouring and sticker books etc. But shock horror sometimes my near 3 year watches Peppa pig so I can stay a bit longer.
Our kids are growing up in different times and I am tired of hearing how much better off we were when we were kids. I remember fighting endlessly with my siblings. And being really really bored. Yes kids need to be ok with boredom, and have a balance in their lives, but I'm not judging anyone for what I see when they go out and try and have a nice night.
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