There's a time and a place for everything. I guess with a spread of ages amongst my kids and all of their friends I see so much variety in kids and how at some ages they obsess over technology whereas 3 months later they never turn it on.
My kids run around and are silly, or they sit quietly and read or draw or yes occasionally go on iPads.
Maybe the Kid in the shopping trolley had special needs and having an Ipad was the only way the poor parent could get get through the supermarket and get everything she needed without the kid having a major meltdown. Even if the kid didn't have special needs, she was only 5-ish! How bloody boring for a 5 year old to hang around a supermarket while mum and dad do the groceries. Why is a kid who needs an I-pad to get through a shopping trip less 'playful' or whatever? Why are the parents less "mum of the year" material? Who says that kid doesn't go making mud pies at lunch time or building Lego towers after dinner.
Don't feel sad for the parents. Don't worry about what they are doing - it's not your business and chances are you don't know all the facts.
Maybe not for you - but most pubs have a area where kids can be - usually the restaurant or beer garden , they are not allowed in the public bars and obviously I'm not an animal and would not let DS run into other patrons and smash glasses and the pubs we go to are very kid friendly - id much prefer my DS to be playing outside in the beer garden with other kids than stuck inside on a computer but that's just us
Last edited by Elijahs Mum; 19-06-2016 at 20:41.
1) as a parent I don't want to go to an adult birthday party and spend 75% of the time chasing my kids. What a waste of an opportunity to catch up with adults I don't get to see that often. If an I pad gives me a bit of freedom for an hour then god bless the I-pad.
2) I don't think a function room at a pub is an venue at which you should have expectations regarding kids playing fabulously. You can't get them too riled up as then you start interrupting the adults enjoyment. Want a perfect play date? Invite a kid to your house.
OP - unless the kids were the same age (3ish) they may not have played with your kid even if everyone was at a BBQ at your house where there were no I pads. Child friendships are a complex thing - can be heartbreaking at times.
If it's a function where kids are not allowed to actually play and have fun then why take them? Luckily our friends and family cater for everyone's kids and hold functions or dinners at appropriate places or if we want an adults only dinner or catch up you just don't invite the kids , I'm lucky I have plenty of baby sitting options so I suppose it's never been a worry for us and why I've never needed to sit DS in a corner with an iPad, I suppose if you have no other option you have no other choice
However.... I don't know whether it's more my kids age (young) or temperament. I can't let them out of my sight or who knows what will happen. The only way I can enjoy the running-around-the-beer-garden experience (still engaging with the other adults etc etc) is if the beer garden is fully fenced in with a child proof gate, there are not multiple entry points/entry points to the inside area that are out of sight, and it's not too crowded. Unless it's the perfect beer garden then at some point (30 min mark?) I might whip out the phone/I pad so I can relax and have some adult conversation.
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