I don't know that anyone would expect their kids to behave in a restaurant until 10pm 6 nights in a row, though? We wouldn't all go in those circumstances. We'd take turns going, and hire babysitters etc. When our kids were younger we'd do more of a 6pm dinner, and be done at 8.30pm. We'd only stay later if we were somewhere where the kids could run around (like a backyard party etc).
Eek! I didn't mean for this thread to upset people. My children are young so I'm just trying to learn from other parents.
I don't judge people for giving their kids iPads. As in I don't think they're being bad or lazy parents and I don't think this is going to adversely affect their kids. We all make parenting decisions and that's theirs.
I think it needs to be understood, though, that this is one of those decisions where, when exercised when kids are socialising with each other, affects the parenting decisions of other people. That's not a judgment, that's a fact.
If you have six kids who are friends at a social event and five parents have brought an 'emergency ipad', you can guarantee that as soon as one parent brings it out, the other four will come out, and there'll be one kid left on their own. What you've done as the parent, is brought in an entertainment device that can only be used by your child. It's different in that way to cards, board games, jenga, connect 4 (or whatever) in that it's an activity that can't be shared.
The effect of this is that the parents of the kid who was left out are going to have to buy them an iPad. That's regardless of monetary concerns or how they feel about screens, or whether they think it's the right time to bring the screens out.
So some of this is not necessarily judgment, but more frustration that they now have to make a parenting decision they didn't want to make.
And yep, we'll have to get over it if this is just life now, but it doesn't mean it's not a little frustrating and disappointing.
And to be clear, I'm not talking about parents of kids with conditions that make it difficult to socialise.
My husband went to a park the other day and the only other kids there were primary school aged, all sitting under the play equipment playing with their parents' phones. There was one hold out whose child was standing in front of her crying and begging for her phone. The mother ended up giving her the phone. It was clearly either that or they leave.
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