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    Default My toddler only wants me!

    My DS is 20 months old. Most of the time, he only wants me, not DP. It's only me that can settle him during the night if needed - he just keeps crying and escalates if DP tries. (We're finished BFing). He comes to me for comfort when he's sad. He always wants me to pick him up, or will pull my hand to come with him places, rarely DP. He wants me to sit with him for his meals, not DP. I love him, but it's exhausting! DP gets a lot more 'down time' than me, and i feel like i am always 'on duty' when bub is awake.

    How can we encourage him to go to us both equally?

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    Organise yourself a girls shopping trip with a friend if you're not there, dad will be fine. Then work up to a night away. You'll have to make your own down time x

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    The more he spends with dad, the better he will be

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    My DS was just mummy mummy mummy. It does get better as they get older. Maybe at 2.5yo-3yo I saw a 'proper' change. Encourage lots of time together during the day. D9 not push night time etc yet. Pet them have fun together without you around at all. If there are cuddles due to hurts/upsets etc - they will naturally go to DH. DS goes to us both. Depends on what is going on. He prefers DH for night settles now and me for morning cuddles. Daytime varies but usually its who he sees first.

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    Agree with Ruby. "Force" some one on one time between your little one & hubby, and soon he will see dad as just as good (almost ) as mum.

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    Thanks for your reply. No hubby here, we are a two mum family, but the advice still holds good ☺ Thanks.

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    I think kids just naturally gravitate towards one partner for a while . My 3 year old still stick to me like glue and when she has a tantrum my husband as wonderful as he is only makes her worse . I'm not bothered though because I have two others who also used to be like this ( not quite so severe) and now like dad equally . It's hard on your partner though and it's hard on you . I would just get her to have time alone with him as much as possible , maybe go away for a weekend . Xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJaq View Post
    Thanks for your reply. No hubby here, we are a two mum family, but the advice still holds good ☺ Thanks.
    Oops! Sorry @JustJaq! That was insensitive of me lol. And yep, I still think getting out on your own will fulfil your need for a break as well as encouraging his bonding with his other mum. Good luck!

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    Ah, not at all, @Ruby_Tuesday15. Thank you ☺

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