He there , I have three kids . One is nearly 8 and has high functioning autism ( boy) . One is 5 and calm and thoughtful and is your everyday happy boy . One is 3 nearly 4 and she is very smart , switched on , has a good sense of humor , can be helpful and happy but she has these tantrums that I've never seen before even in my older child with autism . They happen and come from no where . For example this morning she woke up in my bed ( she creeps in every single night ) she starts making whimpering noises , then it escalates to full on crying about me cuddling her which I am . But it's not enough for her my hands have to be where she wants even if I have to bend them until they hurt . So basically I'm a hostage to her emotions , I'm in bed and if I move she screams . Then she screams she wants dad , so he comes to get her for breakfast and she screams and goes crazy . The kind of screaming from a horror film . She is loud and out of control . Over nothing . My husband told her to stop so she ran back to my room and crawled under the bed whilst screaming and saying she hates us - we have done nothing . So I pull her out and she is wild and crazy and saying horrible things . I told her she needs to stop or I have to take her to hospital ( please bear in mind she does this almost daily and I'm at my breaking point with her ) She cuddles me and crys and I'm back holding her telling her we love her but she cannot keep screaming like that . It's now 10'am and I'm not even out of bed .
This happens almost daily . She is very bright , strong and has an amazing vocabulary . I've looked into food , low sugar , low everything ! She just switches over nothing . My 8 year old with autism couldn't talk at 3 and barely responded to me at all so I'm confused with her . This doesn't seem normal . Now she is fine - back to her loving cheeky self . But we will see this again today .
I know girls present differently with autism , she has no problem making friends or changing plans or any other autistic marker .
Is this a strong willed emotional 3 year old or would you be looking into seeing someone about this . We don't have a pediatrician for my oldest , we did therapy and now he is a talking happy boy at a wonderfully supportive school and is doing so well we don't feel the need for guidance with him anymore . So I don't have one on hand to ask and I don't want to begin that road with her if she is just a loud , emotional individual . But is this the terrible 3's girl style ? She is my only girl . It's so stressful 😩