Thanks I am more than happy to wait a year to discuss it again I think it just really gets to me when he is so vocally against it now, every time we have a hard day he says '...and you want another one?!' Or '2 kids are more than enough' Etc. He seems to be getting more and more against the idea each day. I try to ignore it but it hurts as he knows that's not how I feel right now.
He keeps making references to overseas holidays and how he would prefer that than another child.
I think it's his attitude combined with his apparent negativity surrounding parental duties which he avoids like the plague. I do everything during the week (fair enough I am on maternity leave) but even on wknds he sees the kids as a chore. He would rather be playing golf etc. He is currently having a whinge about taking DS1 to sport instead of seeing it as an opportunity for quality time with his son. I am not sure if this will change?? I can't say anything to him he just gets defensive as he doesn't see it that way.