Feeling a little lost. We have 2 beautiful healthy sons (a 3 month old and an almost 5 year old) and before DS2 was born I thought 2 kids would be it. DH always said let's not cross that bridge just yet, maybe we will want another, etc. Immediately after DS2 was born I felt I wanted another, I am not done, etc. This feeling has not passed yet, despite a very difficult few months.
DH on the other hand, has back-pedalled and doesn't want any more now. I think the stress of a newborn plus impending school fees etc has got him all stressed and he doesn't enjoy the baby phase at all. He is also a clean freak (I know I shouldn't complain) and it's getting increasingly difficult to keep our house to its usual 'display home' standard of tidiness.
It's suddenly dawning on me that despite the fact he would never 'deny' me another child, he really doesn't want one, and that having another would probably cause him a great deal of stress. I just don't think my DH is cut out to be a father of 3, even 2 kids is really hard for him right now.
We kind of agreed to re-open the discussion when DS2 turns 1, but in the meantime I am feeling increasingly resentful at DH as he often makes sarcastic comments regarding a 3rd child, like I am being ridiculous. And when I try to be serious about it, he gets all negative about it suggesting we will have to uproot our lives and sell our house as we can't possibly afford another, and he doesn't want to be an 'old' dad (he's just turned 35.... I don't think that's old?!).
Not sure what the point of this thread is... Having a whinge and wondering if anyone else is in a similar predicament?