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    Default Argh I can't handle 3 kids!!!!

    I realise all my threads are a variation on this theme but honestly I just feel so fed up and lost. Again. This latest crisis is around school kids before and after school activities and the effect on my 2 year olds sleep. She started to drop naps recently. Seemed way too early but she was getting down to bed at a decent hour like 7.30 rather than 8.30/9. But now I'm finding she can't stay awake all day but won't lie down and nap. So she drops off around 3/4. It's usually in stroller on way back from school pick up or driving to one of kids activities or siting on sofa with me on boob. And the thing is there's no point in me trying to keep her awake as now we have 3 nights in a row that we are coming back from their activities around 6. It'd be worse if she slept then. So it's 9 when she's asleep for the night. It's 3.50 and she's been asleep on me for 10mins but ill have to wake in 10 so I can quickly grab our swimming stuff. She will be upset. I don't blame her it's horrible being woken up from a nap. And kids are having crackers as a snack now cus I can't make anything and it'll be beans on toast when we get home at 6.30.
    Sorry I'm ranting. I just feel so guilty that my youngest gets such a raw deal and trapped by these damn extra curricular activities that I don't even think they need...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freyamum View Post
    I just feel so guilty that my youngest gets such a raw deal and trapped by these damn extra curricular activities that I don't even think they need...
    Can you cut them back for just 6-12 months until your littlest is a bit older? Sure extracurricular activities are important for your older children but the needs of your youngest matters too. (Plus your need to not go crazy from stress!)

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    I'd take a break for a term or two and just relax and relish the time at home

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    How many after school activities do they have?

    I work 4 days p/w but finish at 3pm. This year one DD has swimming at 4pm one night p/w (we are home by 5pm) and the other DD has gymnastics on a Saturday morning. I said no to any more activities for this year. Last year they both had 2 activities after school and I found the kids were at the point where they didnt want to go to an activity after school because they were tired and didnt like rushing about and then they whinged about it and I had to basically tell them to suck it up; they chose it, they do it. I also hated all the rushing and the craziness getting home and getting dinner/bath/bed etc.

    I now arrange for a friend each to come over and play one night a week after school for a couple of hours and or for them to go to a friend's house for a play.

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    I think you need to organise after school snacks before picking them up or surely they can have a piece of fruit? Organise everything that is required for the next day the night before. I place all uniforms, sports clothes, swimming stuff, whatever is needed on the table or pack in bags the night before. Today I was home and I put a meal in the slow cooker. Takes 5 minutes to prepare then cook some rice before we leave for footy training and put the lid on and it will be ready to serve when we get home at 6. You could go for a quick 5 minute drive just after lunch and maybe she will sleep for 20 mins.

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    I hear you. I have three also, they are 8yrs, 7yrs and 18 months. The whole logistics of school drop off/pick up and after school stuff has really thrown me.

    We ended up cutting back on a few activities and we now have Tuesday and Friday afternoons free.

    Not sure if available at your school but I do a lot of car line drop off/pick up. That gives me an extra 20 minutes in the afternoon which allows the little one to have his full nap.

    I also try to prep dinner at lunch time so when we get home from an activity i can throw it all together. Slow cookers are a great idea too! The kids have one takeaway night (Thursday) as we don't get home till after 6pm.

    Sometimes you just need to vent and I'm here any time you need. I screamed so much the afternoon that I went into the bathroom and cried. I hate that I have no patience anymore It's hard work juggling them, especially when the older two fight constantly!

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    I would cut back for a while. Take the pressure off yourself. Mine are younger, 5 yrs, 2 yrs and 6 months. But the baby has definitely gotten the raw deal and I only do swimming once a week after school because it's just too hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deku View Post
    Can you cut them back for just 6-12 months until your littlest is a bit older? Sure extracurricular activities are important for your older children but the needs of your youngest matters too. (Plus your need to not go crazy from stress!)
    Thanks yes that's what I'm thinking. Unfortunately my eldest doesn't see any issue with having an activity every night but she's used to just being able to do whatever she wants! She's going back to competitive gymnastics which is 8 hours a week. It is a lot but it's a better time and I only have to do drop off. But I think she can drop swimming for a while. Ds is more relaxed and would be happy to just do swimming when this rugby season ends. He's only 7 he can pick up another sport next year if he wants. It's not just toddler sleep, it's finding time to do stuff at home / prepare proper meals etc. there's no point in doing heaps of exercise if we end up eating crap cus I've no time to make things. Or me drinking too much wine!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I think you need to organise after school snacks before picking them up or surely they can have a piece of fruit? Organise everything that is required for the next day the night before. I place all uniforms, sports clothes, swimming stuff, whatever is needed on the table or pack in bags the night before. Today I was home and I put a meal in the slow cooker. Takes 5 minutes to prepare then cook some rice before we leave for footy training and put the lid on and it will be ready to serve when we get home at 6. You could go for a quick 5 minute drive just after lunch and maybe she will sleep for 20 mins.
    Thanks but I'm refusing to do stuff at night now. I didn't mind getting organised when dd2 was a baby as there was down time during the day and babies are so much easier than toddlers! Now she is 2 she's a crazy ball of energy all day long so when she finally sleeps at 8.30/9 it's me time! Well usually still need to finish tidying up after dinner but no more folding laundry and preparing for the next day it's literally my only time for myself!! They usually eat pretty well had planned to cut up some salad veggies for them for before swimming but had 2 year old sleeping on me and 3rd day of her clinging to me and feeling so rushed I was like oh whatever sure eat the crackers and served up pasta again for dinner, didn't even wince as they tucked into chips after dinner!

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    Can you do dinner prep during the day? Or spend a couple of hours on the weekend cooking meals for the nights everything is a rush? Even if you just do things like pre-chop meat on a weekend, and the pre-chop vegies on the day when the older two are at school...then you just need to cook it when you get home. Make a double batch of something so that you have an easy dinner the next night.
    There are many ways around avoiding the night time rush...it just takes a bit of planning ahead.

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