I will add that we take our kids on several holidays. Our kids don't miss out. This year we have 6 trips away planned...all involve our kids. Family holidays are planned first, extra holidays are planned around the budget. DH and I had 7 years alone together before having a child...but over a decade in to this parenting gig, those breaks that happen every 12-18 months are amazing (and the older they get the easier it is to do it).