And I have known my best friend way longer than my husband (over 33 years verses about 10 years), but still see my husband as the one I share my life, and everything in it, with. I guess it's different for everyone.
I don't view a friend's secret as me keeping secrets from my husband.
I would be hurt if I confided in a friend and she told her husband.
Nope. I don't tell him anything. None of his business.
I don't tell my DH things that I've been told in confidence, but he tells me.
Recently one of his friends told me something in confidence, and I as usual kept it to myself. About a week later the same friend mentioned it to DH and was surprised he didn't already know. DH was grumpy I didn't tell him.... But as I said to him. Not my personal business to tell. Especially as it was quite a personal issue that also involved his partner - so really it was two peoples secret.
Dp has told me stuff that he has said has to be kept strictly between us, and honestly I wish he wouldn't, I feel uncomfortable knowing the info and thinking about the fact that the other person has told them something in confidence and they aren't aware that I know too. He has also told me stuff about his friends that although it wasn't told to him in confidence, they might feel uncomfortable knowing that now I know too. But he just can't help himself, I'm his sounding board.
Myself I don't really get told much private info, a few confidential things at work, but unless it involved him or was effecting me badly somehow I wouldn't tell.
I tell my husband but it's known I do. Though honestly, (and as harsh as this may sound) I don't value friendships as much as I should. I never had friends growing up and to be "friends" with someone was a very temporary arrangement and I never had any for more than 12 months (a mix of moving yearly, social anxiety, parents that were incredibly strict) so I am generally not the person that people confide in. I don't have a best friend that I tell my secrets to and vice versa. The closest I come to that is strangers on the net. My husband is my best friend. Well and truly, not just a cliche.
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