I have a 1 yr old DS and a 3 Yr Old DD. My DD was and is a great sleeper. My DS is not. For the past year I have had to deal with a terrible sleeper. At first it was just life with a newborn, we co-slept a bit to get through although I hated it, whilst I enjoy the cuddles I cannot sleep well but it was better than nothing.
Now my DS sleeps in his own cot and has done since he was about 5 months. But I use the term sleep very loosely. In the past 12 months we have had one night where he has "slept through" and maybe a handful where we have only gone in once or twice. A usual night is more like 6-10 times.
Most recently it has been having to sit and watch TV with him asleep on me as the only way to cope and for him to sleep. He is not a big fan of DH at night and continues to scream even though he is being held and soothed. He doesn't scream for me much once I have him. But I am exhausted and I cannot continue this.
We have just moved to QLD and have no friends or family here for support. My DD is suffering because my DS is taking up all my time and I am grouchy because I am so tired.
We did sleep training with my DD when she was about 7 months, which was very gentle and responsive and she learned to put herself to sleep quickly.
I haven't done it with DS and I honestly don't know if it would work anyhow. He is very stubborn and such a mummys boy.
I am feel like I am slipping into depression though due to the lack of sleep. I am seriously on the edge of no longer coping and it is only the thought of my DD that is keeping me going.
My DS has some mild health issues, CMPI and Reflux as well as Eczema. So I am always wondering if it is something to do with that that is causing his wakes ups or it is that we are too responsive to him. I don't want him waking my DD up so we try not to let him cry, but he does anyway and she sleeps through it so I am probably worrying over nothing.
Sorry for the essay, but I suppose my question is how do other people cope with the exhaustion? How do you get on with your day without making mistakes? I can't be the only one with such a terrible sleeper? And do you think I should be tougher with him? It is affecting my relationship with him and my DH. I love him to pieces but I hate the situation I am in.