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    Default Evenings seem so much easier when DH is still at work!

    Does anyone else feel the same? I feel like I cope so much better getting the kids fed, bathed and in bed of an evening without DH!

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    Yep. We just get our little routine going, no interruptions, no rocket rides or off to help dad with some thing he has to get done, no DH throwing a wet child in a towel at me while i'm trying to stir the sauce for dinner because he decided to wash the dog with the kids. I usually get them showered, fed, bed much earlier and with much less fuss than when he helps.

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    I know right.. As much as my DH tries to help, it's actually more of a hindrance. I do admit I feel sad for my kids and him when they don't see each other when he gets home though.

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    Glad it's not just me! When he's at work the kids are in bed at 7pm and the house is clean. When he's home we're pushing 8pm for bedtime and the house it still a mess. Mornings are crazy with him home, and we're often leaving 20min later than we usually would. I think it's because when he's home I subconsciously expect that he'll help, but he doesn't so therefore my whole routine is messed up.

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    Yeah dh has a very different parenting style to me and gets stressed easily when ds isn't doing what he wants. But since going back to work I can't do everything and have to rely on dh doing things his way. He gets home 2 hours before me now (he used to work late) so gets dinner ready. 😀

    Sometimes I miss the days when I did dinner, bath and bed on my own. But it was stressful at the time some nights when I wanted a break.

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    Quote Originally Posted by just her chameleon View Post
    I think it's because when he's home I subconsciously expect that he'll help, but he doesn't so therefore my whole routine is messed up.
    I can completely relate to this!! I do expect him to help, or even know to do basic things like make sure the kids teeth are brushed and read ONE book only, but it never happens like that. Sometimes he'll come home when I've just got them in bed and he'll get them all hyper again. By this time I've relegated to the shower and I leave it up to him to deal with!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdornedWithCats View Post
    Yeah dh has a very different parenting style to me and gets stressed easily when ds isn't doing what he wants. But since going back to work I can't do everything and have to rely on dh doing things his way. He gets home 2 hours before me now (he used to work late) so gets dinner ready. 😀

    Sometimes I miss the days when I did dinner, bath and bed on my own. But it was stressful at the time some nights when I wanted a break.
    I'm not sure how DH feels when I'm not there and he has to handle the kids. I know the house is never as clean as I like when they're in bed when he's dealing in the evenings. It doesn't happen often thankfully.

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    Yep, definitely easier here too. Dp works away 6-8 days at a time then 2-3 days home. I have my own routine down pat when he's away with dinner/bath/bed/house tidy all by 7pm. If he's home, the kids are so worked up, I'm stressed and exhausted, and everything isn't finished until at least 8.30/9.00.

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    I'm not sure how DH feels when I'm not there and he has to handle the kids. I know the house is never as clean as I like when they're in bed when he's dealing in the evenings. It doesn't happen often thankfully.
    Yeah I once went out for an hour or so. The house was clean when I left and a mess when I got home. I couldn't believe it!

    Dh didn't start off doing that (cooking etc) but has learnt out of nesscesity. I'm pretty honest with him though - if things aren't up to scratch I tell him. Still a long way to go - I find it's the simple, little things he misses. Like cleaning up as you go.

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    Yep much easier. Tv isn't on flicking between every news channel, no extra mess, it's actually easier now I think of it. We just get in our groove.


 

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