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    I had mine at 29 and 35. 29 was perfect for me. I had life experience, travelled, lived out of home for 11 years already but young enough to have a smooth pregnancy and not be as tired with bub. My second recently at 35 was much harder, I wasn't as healthy, more tired, difficult pregnancy and will be 40 when bub starts school!

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    I had my first (and only) at 32. That age was perfect for me - I'd studied, had a career, travelled, dated lots, established myself financially, been wild, etc., and was ready to settle down. I'm sure also that if I had a baby when I was younger I would have though that was perfect as well, I think it's just about making the most things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MilkyMama View Post
    And when do you ever "feel ready"? I have spoken to many mothers of various ages, incomes and experiences and I don't think a single one of them ever indicated they felt ready...
    I absolutely felt ready. I had already felt ready since my mid 20s (but married to mr wrong, so didn't start til my 30s with DH). We didn't wait until everything else was ready/right (renting, not married etc) but I was ready.

    I also think we all feel at some point like we weren't prepared/had no idea what we were getting ourselves into regardless of how ready or our age.

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    Any age between 16 - 50 as long as the child is fed, loved, educated and cared for I think the age of the parent/s is irrelevant.

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    I had my DS at 30 and having no2 in a couple weeks. I was no where near wanting children in my early 20's or even mid 20's. Before having DS I travelled the world sometimes going away 2 times every year to somewhere different but every year I met overseas once. There is no way I would of wanted to do this with small children. I also set myself up financially with buying, selling properties and renovating them to make a nice profit. I do have a mortgage now but it's only a little one. I'm more comfortable in all aspects of life now then what I would of been if I had kids a lot younger. I've also studied at uni and am half way through a law/teaching degree all while working full time being a sole parent for many years until I met DH and having another one in less then a month at the age of 39.

    I think it comes down to how you want to plan your future out. I can honestly say that I'll be mortgage free within 5 on my properties I will only have to work part time and my degree will be done. With the hard slog I've done I can set my kids up with their own financially secure future and go to them at the right age, here's a house you own it it's yours be us the young generation of today will not be able to afford to buy houses in 15/20 yrs time.

    Age is but a number

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    The best age to have a kid is whenever you are both wanting a kid AND up for the task. Individual circumstances affect how much age, maturity, career aspirations, travel ambitions, financial security, relationship stability come into it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MilkyMama View Post
    And when do you ever "feel ready"? I have spoken to many mothers of various ages, incomes and experiences and I don't think a single one of them ever indicated they felt ready...
    Really??

    Most of my friends did feel ready. I guess because they were over 30yo and most of them had been trying for a while.
    I guess when you have an established career and in a long term relationship (with the honeymoon period trully over) you probably feel ready for a baby if you want kids at all.

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    I had my first at 22, my 4th by 26. It worked for me and I couldn't imagine it any other way. But I have friends my age (29) who are no where near ready. Not because I think they're immature, I just mean babies wouldn't fit with how they enjoy life at the moment. Careers, parties, holidays etc. None of that interested me, I had a stable job but nothing fancy, had been independent from my parents for years and I felt I was responsible enough and I wanted it. That's really all there is to it in my opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MilkyMama View Post
    And when do you ever "feel ready"? I have spoken to many mothers of various ages, incomes and experiences and I don't think a single one of them ever indicated they felt ready...
    Plenty of women feel ready, although this shouldn't be confused with 100% confidence in ones ability to raise a child (impossible goal!). Another good benchmark - if one is thinking "holy crap I don't want kids yet, having too much fun living my independent partying life" then that's a good sign one is not ready.

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    Yes, some good points. Well I envy those who say they were ready and confidently made good decisions. Both of mine were unplanned, but welcomed. I definitely didn't have much of a career, travel half as much as I'd have liked or have a house or perfect man when I first fell pregs, but I now own a house and am working towards those other things. I don't feel I am the ideal mum, or have all the answers, but I guess that's ok. We must just make the best of the situation we are given, however unique it may be ☺️


 

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