Feeling like a failure I've tried and failed about half a dozen times (at 3 months, four, six and now 10/11 months) to get my now 11 month old to self settle.
Here is how it goes:-
Put in cot awake after feed, patting and shushing. Bub became so distressed started screaming. Picked up and got Bub calm. Back in cot calmly, same deal- Bub escalated to screaming coughing and hysterical within 2 min. Third attempt I got projectile vomited on. So, calmly clean Bub and myself. Continue until second projectile vomit and give up. Second night, tried for an hour and ended up with vomit and awake Bub. Gave up.
Third night same deal. And fourth and fifth- how long do I keep trying before I meet the definition of insanity? I've gone from having Bub settled within half an hour if fed and burped then put in cot 90% asleep, to hours of work. I'm staying calm, I've tried walking out of room for up to 4 minutes, Bub escalates to a zillion and then pukes and have also tried just resting a hand on Bub with zero success.
Bub will be sleep after a few min of being fed and burped but I worry about how Bub will go at daycare?? Worried about return to work and daycare with a Bub who cant self settle. Please feel free to give advice but be gentle I'm really doing my best. Thank you mummies