If bub absolutely will not settle - try the Shush/pat until bub is drowsy. You may have to start/stop a few times if bub cracks it, and you may have to continue to try over 1-2 weeks before bub gets the hang of it.
Don't get me wrong - the 4 month regression can be really tough. And you're right - it's up to each mum how they deal with it. There are worse things that a parent could do than feed their child to sleep!
He still likes a bottle in bed but I don't begrudge him that comfort even though it would bug some as he's nearly four. And still sleeps in a cot.
Really it's whatever works for you. There's no perfect way.
Let me try and clarify.
Bubs like a consistent environment to sleep in. If something is different from when bub goes to sleep and when bub wakes, bub may stir between sleep cycles and think "wtf! What happened to my boob/music/dummy/light/warm blanket."
Nothing wrong with a baby needing help getting to sleep. Nearly everything can be considered aiding bub to sleep. However I like to break aids into two camps: those that may require adult intervention to maintain through the night (feeding to sleep, dummy, rocking) and those that don't (cloth comforter). I'm not making a judgement on those parents that are happy to reinstate an aid through the night - it's just that night wakings and me don't get along too well (for me the risk of PND with sleep deprivation was too high and not something I wanted to risk).
Shush/patting a baby to the point they are drowsy is like hedging your bets half way. It's not fully aiding a bub to sleep, so it's less likely to result in bub waking through the night. Then again, it's not leaving a bub to self settle, so it's likely going to take longer to encourage bub to self settle using shush/pat. The idea with shush/pat is that the more bub gets used to it, the more alert you leave them before stopping (slowly wean them off).
Hope this helps..
Last edited by VicPark; 16-06-2016 at 19:40.
I am surprised babies have the cognition to remember where the fell asleep and where they've woken up? or is that part of the mental development their brains undergo as part of this 4m regression?
I figure boobing to sleep is something he will grow out of eventually on his own. maybe he won't, but it's working for now so I'm going with it. I would not be BF a 2 or 3 year old to sleep though. I know some might but that's too much for me, I need my independence lol.
so I put him in his bassinet before and gave him a warm bottle (formula) as he was fussing on the boob. I then patted him to sleep. he woke up and started carrying on but I gave him my hand to play with in the bassinet (avoided picking him up as he wasn't crying, just grizzling a bit) and managed to pat/shush him to sleep. that was over 2 hours ago so I'm happy. feels like a small win.
hopefully tonight isn't too brutal....
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