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    My sister is paying for the flower girls dresses (my dd is one) but the bridesmaids are paying for our own dresses (I am one).

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    Although 16 yrs ago I paid for flower girl dress and page boy suit hire. One of my bridesmaid mums is a dress maker so all I had to pay for was material and gave her mum a massage and facial as a thank yoj

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    Thanks for the replies so far... although seeing as most of you paid for your flowergirl dresses, it's not really helping with my miffed-ness lol.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Uniquey View Post
    Just curious OP, why are you feeling a bit miffed? Have you been asked to pay?
    Yep.
    I'm always reluctant to post details as I'm irrationally paranoid the person will stumble across it lol, and the bride (and groom) to be is truly lovely, but.....
    The couple are DINKs, great incomes, wedding looks like it has a very very healthy budget. I am financially struggling. This is no secret. The dress suggestions I've been getting are way out of my price range. Although, anything is out of my price range atm.
    But it has just been confirmed (last week, but I'm still stewing on it) that I will be paying for the dress. And that I'll need to order ASAP in case it takes a while to make.
    To make it worse, XH is in the bridal party. Yet I'm the one who's been asked to pay. There is also a page boy outfit which I haven't (yet?) been asked to pay. Maybe they have asked XH to pay that. But that will be a hire fee, not a purchase.
    I will also need to purchase my other child something fancy to wear as he is playing a minor part in the wedding also.
    So it's an expensive time. At a time when I am the brokest I've been for a while.
    I'm just a bit annoyed as I don't imagine that a flowergirl dress would blow their budget in the slightest, but mine could not handle it, yk? I don't know, maybe I just haven't been upfront enough (I've made some comments, but not flat out asked if they could pay). But then I worry that if I say I can't afford it, they might choose another flowergirl? DD would not cope with that at all.

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    Although 16 yrs ago I paid for flower girl dress and page boy suit hire. One of my bridesmaid mums is a dress maker so all I had to pay for was material and gave her mum a massage and facial as a thank you

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    I paid half for my flower girls (nieces) and mum paid the other half. I've always paid for the bridesmaid dresses, each time the bride had narrowed the options and bridesmaids got a vote. Same with colour, the bride decided but we gave opinion on shade. I was given all jewelry perfume etc as a gift the day before

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Thanks for the replies so far... although seeing as most of you paid for your flowergirl dresses, it's not really helping with my miffed-ness lol.



    Yep.
    I'm always reluctant to post details as I'm irrationally paranoid the person will stumble across it lol, and the bride (and groom) to be is truly lovely, but.....
    The couple are DINKs, great incomes, wedding looks like it has a very very healthy budget. I am financially struggling. This is no secret. The dress suggestions I've been getting are way out of my price range. Although, anything is out of my price range atm.
    But it has just been confirmed (last week, but I'm still stewing on it) that I will be paying for the dress. And that I'll need to order ASAP in case it takes a while to make.
    To make it worse, XH is in the bridal party. Yet I'm the one who's been asked to pay. There is also a page boy outfit which I haven't (yet?) been asked to pay. Maybe they have asked XH to pay that. But that will be a hire fee, not a purchase.
    I will also need to purchase my other child something fancy to wear as he is playing a minor part in the wedding also.
    So it's an expensive time. At a time when I am the brokest I've been for a while.
    I'm just a bit annoyed as I don't imagine that a flowergirl dress would blow their budget in the slightest, but mine could not handle it, yk? I don't know, maybe I just haven't been upfront enough (I've made some comments, but not flat out asked if they could pay). But then I worry that if I say I can't afford it, they might choose another flowergirl? DD would not cope with that at all.
    I think you need to speak up and let them know you can't afford it. Someone else's wedding is not worth financial stress for you.

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    Bride and groom. If they want them, they pay, end of story.

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    I'd pay.. If i asked them to be in the bridal party id see it as us paying.

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    I paid for flower girl dresses and accessories their mum paid for their shoes.
    In your case I would want to know how much I was expected to pay for the dress and if it was too much tell them you cant afford it perhaps offer to pay half

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    I think you need to speak up and let them know you can't afford it. Someone else's wedding is not worth financial stress for you.
    Yes this. Just tell them directly.

    I think wedding traditions wth respect to who pays for what are a bit redundant these days. Such traditions were established when people married very young and generally did not have the means to pay for a wedding. People are getting married at much later stages in life now and should be able to pay for things themselves. If they can't, then they should scale back their wedding. Of course if generous family and friends can help out then that's great but it shouldn't be expected.


 

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