4 years ago my partner and I went to an Oktoberfest party. It was a really great night from what I remember, but recently when it was bought up in discussion I learned that my partner was actually upset at me because he thought I provoked some sort of reaction from a few of the men there, which obviously lead to a much deeper discussion on the topic of holding me accountable for other people's reactions.
This is what happened. My friend and I were acting pretty dumb, it was late into the night and we were tipsy and taking photos. While we were taking photos 3 men from the balcony apparently noticed us and proceeded to quickly run past my partner and exclaimed 'she's Wild!, shes about to do something" and ran to where we were to watch as though my friend and I were about to put on some sort of show.
We weren't. We were posing for photos which resulted in a photo like this. (will attached in comments w faces blanked out)
Turns out he was upset at this for a long time. He blamed me for how they reacted and suggested I provoked their response and has held me accountable for all these years! We have talked about this for the last few days and I have tried to explain that maybe he got jealous, but I was no way responsible for how they reacted and he really should have been more disappointment in how they behaved instead of think if I behaved differently they would have not reacted the way they did.
I cant help but feel this is a little like a woman wears a mini skirt and walks down the street, she attracts a lot of wolf whistling, bf doesn't like it and gets upset with girl as if it was something that she did.