So I've reached the end of my tether with my bub. Six months old and increasing difficult to get to sleep. I've done all the wrong things if I wanted her to self settle. But just did what I felt I had to when she was smaller.
Basically, I have to rock her to sleep. She is a catnapper and wakes after 30 mins, or often after 5 mins and takes ages to get back to sleep (if she will at all). Her night sleep isn't good either. The early evening she'll wake frequently like her naps despite a bedtime routine, and when she does settle for longer its usually only for 2 hrs at a time. So I resort to bed sharing. Not easy when my toddler also comes in during the night now and cracks it if he dad tries to settle her back in her bed. She gets hysterical and screams the house down. Sigh.
It's just so hard trying to get anything done or spend time with my other two kids with her short naps. I can't carry on with it anymore. Plus I return to work part time next month and there is no way here family day carer has time to do what I'm having to do.
I've had a referral to sleep school accepted but it may be a long wait. In the meantime I want to try again getting her to self settle because I feel this is the key to her sleeping better. I have tried before and felt I was getting somewhere but then she got sick and when she was better just wouldn't accept the patting. It takes so long my other kids get fed up and come to find me, or fight and one comes in crying which obviously disturbs what I'm trying to do.
But, tomorrow and Saturday both kids are out of the house for most of the day and I want to tackle it again. Feeling very nervous and trying to remind myself where to start. I'm thinking:
Look for tired signs
Put bub in her sleeping bag in darkened room, quick cuddle then into cot. With comforter and dummy.
Leave the room.
When she cries, go in and shhhh pat.
How long do I do it for before picking her up? Until she seems too upset? Distressed rather than protesting? When she calms do I put her down again?
Arghhh it's so difficult.