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    Food is a great idea. But I know for me when I was struggling having an invitation to get out of the house was a life saver and something to look forward to.
    Is it possible to invite her over to your place so she can have some adult conversation?

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    Get both your hubby's to look after their kids and have a kid free coffee/movie date with the mum.

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    Sunny food, maybe a few groceries? I struggled to steer the trolley sometimes and a few weeks ago I took
    My SIL grocery shopping as she's preg with her 3rd and says it hurts a lot
    Maybe you could ask if she need help buying her groceries?
    Im not sure what else

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    Spoke with another kindy mum/mutual friend and we are going to try do a bbq on wknd to start with. The kids will all play together and she can hopefully sit back and have adult conversation. Maybe we can ask her more directly about how to help in a non-threatening way.

    The twin boys are extremely clingy to mum and apparently won't be left with anyone else. Mutual friend suggested she has tried minding boys even for 5 mins etc to help but they completely meltdown it's very hard.

    Will see if can offer to do groceries I don't know what her current arrangement is - I am still doing mine online as I can't get to supermarket baby-free atm. If I didn't have a young baby myself it would be easier to do things like that. I have experienced baby meltdown in coles before and it scarred me for life! 😂 Thank goodness for online. Maybe I can do a click and collect for her.

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    Lovely thought offering to do groceries hun however for me it wouldn't work. By the time I explained to you everything I needed (specific brands only for certain things etc) I could have done an online order myself.

    BBQ is a lovely idea however depending on the kids etc just be careful - the thought of taking kids out by myself in a 'public setting' often leaves me with a feeling of dread (keeping an eye on them, stopping them running off/melting down etc) can often be more work/stress than if I stayed at home etc. for me that would only work as a relaxation exercise if hubby tagged along and watched the kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Lovely thought offering to do groceries hun however for me it wouldn't work. By the time I explained to you everything I needed (specific brands only for certain things etc) I could have done an online order myself.

    BBQ is a lovely idea however depending on the kids etc just be careful - the thought of taking kids out by myself in a 'public setting' often leaves me with a feeling of dread (keeping an eye on them, stopping them running off/melting down etc) can often be more work/stress than if I stayed at home etc. for me that would only work as a relaxation exercise if hubby tagged along and watched the kids.
    I think this is the idea - hubbys etc. on the weekend. Our mutual friend is organising it and she knows her better than me so it's more her idea than mine. I think she is doing it to help cheer her up, give her the opportunity to get out of the house and entertainment for the boys.

    I agree re shopping I would offer to pick up milk/bread etc.

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    Some great advice here...

    Would love to have known someone like you when I've been really struggling in the past!

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    Something like this would make my day if I were in her shoes. Its a cleaning service gift card.

    https://www.mollymaid.com/gift-certificates.aspx

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    Love the idea of food. However, I always hated people just dropping over as my house was always a mess and even though I'm sure no one cared I did.
    Can u message her and see if she wants to meet at a play centre or something (that way she doesn't have to run around and clean the hosue for company). Then give her the meal or flowers or whatever after you've had a catch up/coffee.

    I think its a beautiful thought from u. What a lovely person you are!!

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    paying it forward. love all the suggestions. I would try to do the school run, that is going to be a tricky thing when the new baby arrives, so perhaps aiming to help with that could be a priority. marie.


 

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