One of DS1's kindy mates' mother is heavily pregnant. She already has 3 boys, a 4 yr old and 2 yr old twin boys. I don't know her really really well but always chat etc and catch up at kids parties.
She is really struggling. I know this because of chats we have had in the kindy hallway, seen her looking exhausted and my MIL was talking to her at playgroup today and said she broke down in tears, and mIL is very concerned for her.
I believe it's a combination of exhaustion from caring for the (very active, somewhat defiant) twins all day and a difficult pregnancy - I don't know how she is still standing. She seems quite depressed and I worry she will most likely go further downhill once the new baby arrives.
I don't want to intrude (from what I hear she is quite proud and won't ask for help) but I know she is struggling and I really want to help her in some way. I can't really take the boys as I have a 3 month old in addition to my 4 yr old and don't think I could cope with more right now - maybe her 4 yr old but not the twins!
What things would be helpful and thoughtful in this instance?