Last edited by Louise41; 08-06-2016 at 18:30.
I'd just like to say a big thank you to the ladies who actually offered me helpful advise on my post. I am definitely things of solutions to my concerns and there's been some great suggestions so thank you!
To others who have obviously just come in here to judge and attack me, shame on you. I am a parent asking for help and advise, until you have been in the exact same position I am in you should try and be a little more respectful in future.
I haven't mentioned many things in my post such as the abuse & threats to my family from my DFs ex, the constant berating from her mother, the badmouthing of my 5yo DD from my DSD and her mum and the behaviour issues we have because that would all add fuel to your fire about how much I apparently don't care about DSD.
I love my DSD, I go out of my way to make her feel included in every way, I make her sandwiches the way she likes on the plate she likes, I make sure her favourite book is out ready for bed, any treats I buy DD I buy the same for DSD, I brush her hair and play Lego with her and talk to her about kindy and her friends and send her and her dad to do special things she enjoys.
I'm not a heartless b*tch and I feel that some of your posts border on bullying, half of you came into my thread with NOT ONE bit of helpful advice or suggestions, you just came in with your back up telling me that I'm wrong. Being a step parent is bloody hard work, until you've been there how about keeping your heartless judgements to yourself.
Yes you'll probably say that I 'just don't like your answers' but try taking a long hard look at what you have written, would you say those things to your sister or best friend if she was struggling and needing advice? I doubt it. And if you said those things in real life as harshly as you have on here I most definitely wouldn't want you as a friend. Offer your opinion yes but think about the tone you're doing it in.
Mods you can close this thread please, it stopped being helpful a long time ago.
I'm not a step mother, but my daughter has a step mother and if her dad reduced days with our daughter because they had a new baby arriving I would be irate. You might not see the damage that could potentially cause to their relationship because you think it's only a couple of hours in the morning, but when that's the only time they have then that time is precious.
If you were my friend I probably would let you vent, but if you asked for advice I would probably tell you to suck it up, because my friends and I have that kind of relationship and clearly have a thicker skin.
I think you've been given ample advice about the practicalities of the Monday morning... Get things organised the night before, uniforms laid out, lunches made. Give her a up and go and an apple for breakfast if it's that rushed in the morning.
Unfortunately when you have multiple kids things just get busy, it becomes a juggling act for every parent, you are not alone in that struggle.
I don't think you're back story has any relevance to the situation, at the end of the day it's still about your step daughter and her dad and their time together. The only thing your back story adds in my opinion is that the bio mum probably won't be too receptive to changes anyway.
Summer fun I hope my posts didn't come off as judge mental at all cause that's not how I meant them to be. I do not think you hate your dsd at all.
Your family will work out what is best for you guys no matter what anyone says.
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