When I had my 2nd baby, I found it really tough to lose the 1:1 time with my first. We were used to spending lots of special time together. But the first has a sibling now, plus one on the way, so 1:1 time just does not happen all the time. It's a hard adjustment to get used to, but it becomes your new normal xx
SummerFun Let him take her in late or sort it out himself, leave that responsibility on his shoulders. You are going to have enough on your plate with the newborn. If you are going to be woken at 6am then you'll have to go to bed earlier, I can't really see a way around that. Your sleep schedule is going to be all out of whack with the bub anyway. Bug hugs, it is hard. Myself and my partner both work full time and I have a 90 minute commute each way plus two different daycare drop offs (instead of one) when my bub arrives. My son likes to be up at 530am *facepalm*
The girls getting ready in the morning already makes things take so so much longer.
Yes I'm aware I'll have another baby soon enough and kids have to share/adjust but my 2 biological children will be 5yrs apart not 6months like DD & DSD so I don't really think the two are compatible.
Sorry,I keep adding things as I think of them. We leave home just after 7.30 5 days a week for school drop off. I have lunches ready to go, uniform/ clothes laid out in the loungeroom for the kids to put on as soon as they get up, & I make a quick brekky that can be eaten in the car on the drive to school, usually something I've prepped the night before. I get up 15ish mins before everyone else - no matter how little sleep I had the night before - to have a quick shower, get dressed, & start the day with a clear head. Super organisation really helps with those mornings.
I don't know if I'm being sensitive but a few people replying are saying I'll just have to adjust to missing out on one on one time with my DD once the baby is here yet I'm labelled a b@tch for suggesting my DF misses 1.5hrs with his DD every second weekend. It feels like I'm expected to sacrifice but he's not? Is that the gist? I may be reading into it wrong
We pick up my step son Friday nights and he goes home Sunday's, we cannot get him to school on a Monday morning because that would make three drops offs between us getting to work, care and one to school already. It's an early start for her to to have to concentrate at school all day as well. I think it's totally reasonable for you to take her home Sunday's instead.
Edit to add- I feel for you, as a step parent were not supposed to ever feel exasperated by the situation because "we knew they had kids blah blah blah" and everyone who isn't a step parent usually has a giant opinion on it. I hope you come up with a solution, it doesn't sound like she would really be missing time with him anyway seeing as it's you who gets left to do most of the parenting duties with her, with the getting ready etc.
Last edited by PipersMummy; 08-06-2016 at 14:29.
The 1 still drying goes back into her drawer. So there is always 1 uniform at your house. Both dont go back to her Mums house with her.
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