To be honest I felt your posts came across that you think I'm being very selfish and only thinking of myself in this situation which is 100% not true.
Do you and your DH both work? Do you travel far to the kids schools?
Yes you're right, the issue is bigger for me as I'm the one dealing with the stresses and pressure of it all than someone on the outside. I am stressed by the thought of how to work things and deal with a newborn.