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    Quote Originally Posted by SummerFun View Post
    Ah ok, yes I understand. But the 1.5hrs on a Monday morning less wouldn't be time DSD is missing out on with time with the baby (in my opinion, because she would be getting ready for school). It just feels a little like me and my DD are expected to sacrifice but DF isn't in any way if you know what I mean?
    Ummm your DH is already sacrificing 11 nights a fortnight with his daughter - that is huge & one he has to live with every single day. I've read through the whole thread & don't think there were any attacks at all, but lots of very good advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Summer View Post
    Ummm your DH is already sacrificing 11 nights a fortnight with his daughter - that is huge & one he has to live with every single day. I've read through the whole thread & don't think there were any attacks at all, but lots of very good advice.
    Ummm that fact has absolutely nothing to do with me. Parents shouldn't stay together unhappily for 'the sake of the child' nor should step parents be blamed for 'taking the other parent away'

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    Default Step Child Starting School - Help!

    Not going to buy into all the other stuff.
    Op you clearly care about the wellbeing of your entire family, your DSD included.
    It sounds to me that you're experiencing anxiety in the lead up to new Bub arriving and wanting to sort as many situations out as possible beforehand.
    I think most of us can probably relate to that!
    I think it's commendable that you're coming and asking advice. It shows you care.
    I also think though that to avoid further stress to you, your Bub, your DD and your DSD, you need to push back on DH and his ex.
    Uniform issue - DH can do it
    Lunches - DH can do it
    Drive to school - DH can do it and be can get off his effing phone while he is.
    Yes this is about DSD and her dad having time together, but he needs to actually contribute meaningfully.
    Your whole family will need time to adjust when Bub arrives and your DH needs to step up. For ALL his kids and his wife.
    You do not have to sort any of this. You just need to love your family and if DSD's parents aren't phased by any of this, take that as a sign that you don't need to worry and push back on them so when DSD is at home with you guys you can enjoy your time together.
    I wish you all the very best for the rest of your pregnancy xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by GucciDahling View Post
    Not going to buy into all the other stuff.
    Op you clearly care about the wellbeing of your entire family, your DSD included.
    It sounds to me that you're experiencing anxiety in the lead up to new Bub arriving and wanting to sort as many situations out as possible beforehand.
    I think most of us can probably relate to that!
    I think it's commendable that you're coming and asking advice. It shows you care.
    I also think though that to avoid further stress to you, your Bub, your DD and your DSD, you need to push back on DH and his ex.
    Uniform issue - DH can do it
    Lunches - DH can do it
    Drive to school - DH can do it and be can get off his effing phone while he is.
    Your whole family will need time to adjust when Bub arrives and your DH needs to step up. For ALL his kids and his wife.
    You do not have to sort any of this. You just need to love your family and if DSD's parents aren't phased by any of this, take that as a sign that you don't need to worry and push back on them so when DSD is at home with you guys you can enjoy your time together.
    I wish you all the very best for the rest of your pregnancy xx
    Thank you so much for your reply, you've actually made me cry, I feel like you understand what I'm saying and where I'm coming from. Yes I'm anxious about it all, I was seeking help and it turned into this horrible thread. Thank you x

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    Quote Originally Posted by SummerFun View Post
    Mods you can close this thread please, it stopped being helpful a long time ago.
    Closed at the request of the OP.


 

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