Where she's concerned he's seeing her on weekends and calling her every night Unless there's prior commitments. Same as on weekends. As he still hasn't got his own bloody place yet (and where he is isn't child friendly so he cannot take her for overnight's) he comes over here on the weekends and takes her out then brings her back for her nap time and hangs out with her for a bit after she wakes. I go out both days and do my own thing.
There is flexibility in that if either of us have got something on (for eg I've got a Girls catch up with one of my BFF's, both my sisters, one of our cousins, and our kids this Sun) then the arrangement will be that he will do his thing all day right through to her dinner time with DD on whichever day on the weekend he/I don't have plans for, so this weekend he'll have all day with her Sat.
He'll occasionally come by through the week too for something of his (as stuff is being stored here until he gets his own place) so will see DD then as well which is fine by me. I have no issue with him seeing her/talking to her as much as he wants. She needs a meaningful relationship with him just as much as she needs one with me. It's just as important plus they both love and adore each other.
I hope the counselling helps him too. All I can do is keep encouraging him to go for his own sake first and foremost, which I'm doing. What he does is another matter entirely!!!
Thank you so much to all you lovely ladies for sending me lovely messages and positive vibes. It was so nice and heartwarming to read them all today on my first day back at work. You are all so wonderful. I will let you know how i go with my test. I have a huge kids birthday to get through first this weekend for my visiting neice and nephew so there will be kids babies and pregnant ppl galoore. After that i will do the poas. Thanks again for making me feel special, it means a lot to me! Xxx
Whatev's Luv!! He's got every right to move on..it's been 6 months now. All I give a fruck about is (if it ends up getting serious either with her or anybody else) how my DD will be treated.
My stepmother was a frucking Mole who mistreated my sisters and I It really affected me for a very long time growing up and was a contributing factor in triggering my depression and anxiety in my teens
I don't want the same thing to happen to my DD. It's my greatest fear..That he will choose unwisely
Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 06-07-2016 at 23:49.
@Charlie74 I'd budget about $15k upfront including donor sperm, flights, meds, extra tests. Thanks for reminding me that his basic fee can be less than LBs. Have you moved on from scorching hot Rhodes now? I've been concerned about @calypso75 as well. She's not a sing it from the rooftops kind of gal if she needs support.
@BlondeinBrisvegas That's a deep concern of mine too...my exDPs next serious relationship and that persons relationship with my DS. I'm sorry your SM was evil.
Thanks for listening to me waffle on yesterday girls. I've got some major non IVF life stuff going on that should be wrapped up by October-ish.
I think I'll book flights on the w.end to go up and see Wazza on the 2nd August. I don't want to regret not seeing him when a line gets drawn under this process. Hopefully I can have some lining scans done in the coming months to see what my lining is like in its natural state, off all the meds.
@Maxwellsmum Did AF show up?
@Summer Any progress hun?
@Blossom74 Good luck tomorrow. Is the apt close to you?
@JulieMalooley I miss you! I hope life's going well with your two precious poppets.
(Hi to the new girls! I'm sorry I'm not up to speed on your journeys.)
Last edited by Tahli; 07-07-2016 at 09:28.
Morning! Just wanted to share an update. Had a scan today, but Ive only had 3 injections so I didn't expect to see much. 7 on the right and 12 on lefty. They were measurable. No idea what that means but I'll take anything. The lady scanning was in training and took forever. Im 39 and poor responder, so its a win in my books. I imagine that they are not all going to be mature, Im not that lucky. But its the best result Ive ever had. Onwards & upwards! Lucky last round..
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