so I'm 4 months in (ds is 3 months) and starting to find myself looking forward to going back to work (part time obviously). I adore ds but I'm finding the sahm slog quite isolating, repetitive and numbing.
a few questions for you:
- how long did you take in mat leave?
- how did you spend your days? I'm particularly interested in hearing how first time mums did it. I know that when you've got an older child it's a lot busier.
- did you get bored/feel lonely etc. if so, how did you deal with this?
I'm finding I'm putting more pressure on dh to be my "life line" to the outside world. so when he comes home tired and just wants to space, I feel like I'm bothering him by harassing him for conversation and attention.
I'm getting stuck for ideas of how to spend my days. I can't be playing with ds the entire time he's awake and not feeding. as winter is now here, outdoor activities aren't really an option. I'm also someone who doesn't enjoy going to the park or going on walks. never have, probably never will. I get bored lol.
I do mothers group which is a nice once a week thing but otherwise I'm struggling a bit. dh and I share a car and he takes it to work on days I don't need it (I feel bad making him catch the bus on chilly mornings on the off chance I might need the car to go out) so mostly I don't have a car to get about in. my family are not close by either and the friends I have here all work in the day.