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    Default Exhaustes. I have bred the worst sleeper in the world.

    My DD is 16 months. She's never been a great sleeper. ATM,she only wants to sleep on me,when I am sittinf upright. If I try to cosleep, she screams and hits me until I get up with her. She screams when I put her in her cot. The last few nights, she has screames until 2am, slept from 2-4 & awake from 4. So I am on 2 hours sleep a night and at my wits end. I have to drive my older one to school, a 30 minute drive down the 110km/hr expressway is dangerous on the amount of sleep I am getting. So now it's almost 3am. She is warm. She is well fed. She has had cuddles. She has screamed and hit me when I tried to help her sleep by cuddling her in my bed. I am so painfully exhausted. I've left her in her cot to cry. I think it's time to do some CC with her, I am just at my wots end and I am so so exhausted. I have a toddler and school child, so resting in the day is not an option. Not really sure what I'm asking for here - I am just desperate and need to vent.

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    Default Exhaustes. I have bred the worst sleeper in the world.

    That sounds ****ty for you

    If you want to just vent, that's totally fine. If you want to brainstorm some ideas, questions to help do that are below.

    Have medical issues been ruled out?
    How is solids intake? Enough carb/meat protein?
    How does bubs day go from waking, to include naps/meals to bedtime?
    How is bub put to sleep? Any sleep aids? Transferring of location post falling asleep?
    Does bub have a cloth/teddy head comforter?
    What is the temp in bubs room, is it consistent through the night and what clothes/bedding (clothes, blankets/doona) is bub in?

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    Massive massive hugs.

    Vent if you need to, whinge complain whatever helps you. If you want help there are so many great mummas on the hub no matter what your parenting style - someone will have advice.

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    I will add is she teething? Have you tried panadol/nurofen? The uprightness might maybe mean ears? I would take her to the dr to get checked over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    I will add is she teething? Have you tried panadol/nurofen? The uprightness might maybe mean ears? I would take her to the dr to get checked over.
    Yes I was going to say this about ears. Often not wanting to lay down has been the only symptom of my toddler's ear infections.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hemarao View Post
    Hmm i know it can be painful and tiring for a mum. I believe its more for a boy baby.
    Huh?

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    Just wanted to send you huge hugs. I was at the same point with DD at that age, everything just peaked and she literally would scream no matter what I did. At this point I realised a lot of the attachment parenting advice I had been given was failing us, and I went down the cc route. I went to a mother baby unit and had a weeks stay, which was the best thing I ever did. DD responded well and went from 2 x 20 minute naps per day and frequent overnight waking, to 2 x 1.5 hour naps and sleeping all night, most nights (and a much better temperament as well).

    Don't let people tell you all they need is a cuddle, if your instincts tell you otherwise. Cuddling is great but if it isn't helping them sleep, then it's obviously counter-productive. Also you have other children and yourself to care for, so something definitely needs to change. Unless there are other health concerns (I'd definitely get her ears checked out too), I'd be inclined to let her cry/grizzle a bit. Have you heard about Dr Brian Symon yet? He has a book "your baby manual", it might be helpful?

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    Big hugs @cheeeeesecake. In the short term is there someone else that can do the school run? Another parent or something? My DS went through a phase like this (actually a number of them) no matter what I tried. Good luck, and here if you'd like to chat x

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    Default Exhaustes. I have bred the worst sleeper in the world.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    Yes I was going to say this about ears. Often not wanting to lay down has been the only symptom of my toddler's ear infections.
    Yes - this was one of the signs when my DS had an ear infection. The best thing is if it is an ear infection then once treated, sleep will be restored.

    OP - I hope you get some rest soon. No sleep is the worst!

    ETA: when well - my DS did not like my input when he was going to sleep - he wouldn't co-sleep and if I held, rocked, patted him, he was too stimulated. If I left him to his devices, he was asleep within minutes - yes - there was Grizzling but it wasn't distressed.

    I can imagine how stressful it is, especially if your DD is being physical. Best wishes!
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    Oh thanks so much everyone, I was at a bad place last night, so you have all made me feel so much better. She cried for about 20 mins & then dropped off to sleep. @hopefullyK I think it is EXACTLY this. She has gotten so used to me cuddling her to sleep in just the way she likes it, that she now wants it all night long, and every time she stirs. She was angry crying last night & hitting me, not upset per se. Thanks again everyone 💗💗

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