The grandparents can make an appt play their case to a mediator in turn you will be sent a letter of offer to make an appt for yourself to go in and at your case, they give you 3 months I think it was to have your appt, so drag that one to the latest time possible. After your appts both parties have to attend a class on parenting (a joke I know) after that you go to mediation either together in the same room or seperate rooms but at the same time and the mediator will go back and forth Between the rooms. Each party comes up with proposals for visitation. If can agree then an agreement will be drawn up between the all involved but note that your mum can do what she wants with them while they are in her care. But I'd put limitations on that. If nothing can be resolved each party can ask for a certificate to say you have attended. If you get that either party can get more legal advice and go to court and get it sorted out by a judge.
You prob best though to actually ask her why she wants to take the older one for a week at such a young age. It does seem quite odd though. My son is now 9 (today) and he goes on trips with my folks for sometimes over a week but he has a very close bond and a very close relationship with them and No 2 that is due next month will have that same bond.
I haven't read any of your posts, but you must be a very patient person. I personally would be sitting down with her at her next visit, and informing her that they were YOUR children, and she would see them when YOU permitted it, on your terms. And if she would like to threaten legal action again, then she would not be welcome in your home again. Either she could meet you in a neutral place (like a library with a kid's area), or she can just p1ss off. I have a great relationship with my mum and MIL, but I doubt I would let them take my 9 week old to the park without me. Sorry that I am absolutely no help, it must be tough having a strained relationship and to have all the effort you are making to allow her in your children's lives thrown back in your face.
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