As for your comments, thanks for your opinion.
It has been suggested by another poster (sorry, memory like a fish) and now also BlondeinBrisVegas that because I am the problem medically, I am feeling emasculated about another man having to complete what I cannot.
Even thinking about it makes me feel anger.
I think the issue has been identified and now I need to see what can be done, if anything, for me to get around it.
I cannot say either way, but perhaps it is all quite overwhelming. I don't know.
As for my partner, she is the reason I am posting here. I'm trying to find help for this issue before our relationship needs help.
In an emergency I guess there isn't really any time to think. I would like to think that I would not think twice about it. I do know that I would not stand in the way of needed care regardless of who's providing it. What I don't know is how I would feel about it afterwards.
With the issue likely identified I would like to say that a male in an emergency setting would be a non event for me. I just don't know and I hope that I never find out.
Thanks for your input.