Hi...regular hubber undercover here
I am concerned about my Dh and dont know what to do. We have a five year old and I am due to have our second next month. We have been together over a decade.
90 percent of the time we have a wonderful marriage but DH has always had an anger issue. When we were younger if we had a bad fight he would do things like punch walls, slam doors hard etc. He has never physically hit me but has pushed me out of the way a few times. I told him I would leave if he continued thst behavior and he hasnt done it in a while.
It did really scare me though and I feel like Iwalk on eggshells a lot, not wwanting to make him really mad because he doesn't seem to be able to control his behavior when he gets like that.
We have been under a lot of stress, my pregnancy has been difficult with preterm labour scares. Last night we had a fight because I was upset that for several weeks (months maybe?) He has been playing ps4 in the evenings until midnight or so. I want to spend time with him. It got heated and he went and grabbed the ps4, unplugged it, stormed in, held it high above his head and made a move to smash it. I yelled "don't! " and he didn't smash it. His initial reaction was "ypu have so little faith in me if you think I would actually do that", bit eventually was very apologetic.
I had been cramping all day bit the stresd of it started up tightenings every few minutes and was admitted to hospital overnight for obs (bub is fine).
He is a good man and on the whole we have a wonderful marriage but i feel like I can't trust him not to flip the lid. I feel scared to cause fights and this has just enttenched that fear. I feel so upset he did that when I am heavily pregnant and the pregnancy has been so difficult.
I just dont know what to do. I want to move past this and work these issues out, I think after ladt night and seeing the effects of his anger he is now ready to accept help/make changes. I just feel so confused and dont knoe what to do.
Please don't quote I may delete.