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    I have a 2.5 year old and 1 yr old. I spoon feed both of them. They both feed themself too but my youngest doesn't get enough in if I don't give her a few spoons full and my oldest is distracted and talking and messing about so I spoon some into him too. Tbh my 2.5 year old just likes it when I feed him. I'm happy to indulge that a little bit.

    Why does it bother you? Like I get that it might be a bit odd to you but ultimately what is the worst that could happen? Everyone learns to eat 100% independently eventually. Xxx

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    Default When did you stop spoon feeding?

    Quote Originally Posted by RedCreamingSoda View Post
    I have a 2.5 year old and 1 yr old. I spoon feed both of them. They both feed themself too but my youngest doesn't get enough in if I don't give her a few spoons full and my oldest is distracted and talking and messing about so I spoon some into him too. Tbh my 2.5 year old just likes it when I feed him. I'm happy to indulge that a little bit.

    Why does it bother you? Like I get that it might be a bit odd to you but ultimately what is the worst that could happen? Everyone learns to eat 100% independently eventually. Xxx
    Tbh I feel a bit silly about starting this thread. It is quite judgemental (eta: from me). I guess I was just concerned that maybe he's being mothered too much and my SIL -who has her own issues- is really struggling with him (only child) and is falling behind (there are other issues at play such as he's still not speaking etc that I won't go into). I just want him to have a shot at becoming a normal kid.
    But it's nice to know others are also doing similar and he should figure it out eventually.

    If he was happy to be fed it wouldn't bother me so much but every time I've watched it he's never been happy, whining and carrying on and both MIL or SIL just keep feeding him.

    I just need to keep my mouth shut. She's not very receptive to advice. They will find their way eventually. (I've been saying that for 2.5 years!!!)
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    DS who is almost 10 months has NEVER let us spoon feed him more than a bite or 2. I have tried every feed apparatus with no luck. He essentially has BLW himself.

    In my opinion, 2.5 seems way too old, but every kid is different. Who knows.

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    Default When did you stop spoon feeding?

    In my opinion too many people are worried about mess/controlling intake than what stage the baby is at and their needs.

    My DD has been feeding herself all manner of food since she was 6mths old. They're perfectly capable.

    I feel sad for your nephew. Poor thing should be getting messy with playing lots of textures of food. He's a kid. It's what they do. They are capable of controlling what foods they need and intake from a very young age if given a wide variety to experiment with they do eat more than enough with their hands.

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    Honestly I think 2.5 is too old to be feeding a child all their meals. I still occasionally feed my 6 yo if he is really tired.

    I'm not a spoon feeder (we mostly follow BLW) so our children feed themselves a lot earlier than some but by 2.5 I would think that people should be letting them try to do it themselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Tbh I feel a bit silly about starting this thread. It is quite judgemental (eta: from me). I guess I was just concerned that maybe he's being mothered too much and my SIL -who has her own issues- is really struggling with him (only child) and is falling behind (there are other issues at play such as he's still not speaking etc that I won't go into). I just want him to have a shot at becoming a normal kid.
    But it's nice to know others are also doing similar and he should figure it out eventually.

    If he was happy to be fed it wouldn't bother me so much but every time I've watched it he's never been happy, whining and carrying on and both MIL or SIL just keep feeding him.

    I just need to keep my mouth shut. She's not very receptive to advice. They will find their way eventually. (I've been saying that for 2.5 years!!!)
    This. If he's unhappy then that should be the yardstick right? Everyone wants their kids to have a good relationship with food..

    Does this mean he still gets purées at 2.5?! 😳

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Tbh I feel a bit silly about starting this thread. It is quite judgemental (eta: from me). I guess I was just concerned that maybe he's being mothered too much and my SIL -who has her own issues- is really struggling with him (only child) and is falling behind (there are other issues at play such as he's still not speaking etc that I won't go into). I just want him to have a shot at becoming a normal kid.
    But it's nice to know others are also doing similar and he should figure it out eventually.

    If he was happy to be fed it wouldn't bother me so much but every time I've watched it he's never been happy, whining and carrying on and both MIL or SIL just keep feeding him.

    I just need to keep my mouth shut. She's not very receptive to advice. They will find their way eventually. (I've been saying that for 2.5 years!!!)
    You'd have thought her nurse would have said something by now; unless she's not being honest with her.

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    Don't feel silly about starting the tread. Anon forums can be a way to gather our thoughts before we say things irl that might upset.

    I just think that my spoon feeding my kids has absolutely no ill effects so I find it odd that anyone else would judge it.

    Maybe different to your SIL. Sounds like she has other stuff going on. Also I find the wanting to avoid mess a bit confusing. Toddlers are SOOOO messy so better just get used to it. I do consider playing and messing with food just part of learning to eat so SIL will have to deal with mess at some stage. But your kids, your nephew and my kids will all be adults eating out at a restaurant one day and no one will know or care how much or for how long their mums spoonfed them. Xxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    You'd have thought her nurse would have said something by now; unless she's not being honest with her.
    What nurse???

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    Quote Originally Posted by RedCreamingSoda View Post
    What nurse???
    The maternal & child health nurse... There is a 2 year appointment - in VIC anyway.

    Edit - my point was if there IS an issue with the feeding (not saying there is), I'd have thought the nurse would pick it up.
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