My nephew is 2.5 years old.
My SIL still spoon feeds him. He can eat finger foods but has never used a spoon or fork himself.
I politely suggested today he should be learning to do this himself now, as I just felt so sorry for him strapped to a high chair being made to eat and he was carrying on.
Both MIL and SIL got snarky and said there was nothing wrong with still spoon feeding at his age as that way he's not making a mess?!?
So just wondering when others were feeding themselves.... Dd1 I remember was using a spoon by herself correctly by 18 months.
Just feeling sorry for the poor kid.