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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    100%!!!

    I was SO reluctant to go to sleep school. But after 8 month with little sleep, I was quickly heading toward PND and family & friends were getting worried about my well being.

    I was literally sick the days leading up to, and the first night at sleep school. I was a mess. The nurses rang a psych to get me an anxiety med I used to be prescribed to get me through the first 24 hours. I was SO worried I was going to permanently damage DS, it was crushing me. I read studies on attachment & his cortisol levels. So many gentle parenting and AP books; I was sure I was going to ruin him.

    But guess what? I didn't. The nurses were so kind and gentle to both of us. And DS responded quickly. Turns out my kid has a temper; and a lot of his protesting was that.

    Not sure where I'm going with this other than to say until you're there and you try it, you can't judge. If it's not for you, fine, don't do it. But don't call me a $hitty parent with damaged kids.
    Good on you for opening your heart and mind to another way and for taking the brave step of doing something to change the status quo. Sticking to your philosophy/guns loses it's awesomeness once it leads you down the PND path.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    Not sure where I'm going with this other than to say until you're there and you try it, you can't judge. If it's not for you, fine, don't do it. But don't call me a $hitty parent with damaged kids.
    This is perfect!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lileitak View Post
    100%!!!

    I was SO reluctant to go to sleep school. But after 8 month with little sleep, I was quickly heading toward PND and family & friends were getting worried about my well being.

    I was literally sick the days leading up to, and the first night at sleep school. I was a mess. The nurses rang a psych to get me an anxiety med I used to be prescribed to get me through the first 24 hours. I was SO worried I was going to permanently damage DS, it was crushing me. I read studies on attachment & his cortisol levels. So many gentle parenting and AP books; I was sure I was going to ruin him.

    But guess what? I didn't. The nurses were so kind and gentle to both of us. And DS responded quickly. Turns out my kid has a temper; and a lot of his protesting was that.

    Not sure where I'm going with this other than to say until you're there and you try it, you can't judge. If it's not for you, fine, don't do it. But don't call me a $hitty parent with damaged kids.
    Well said. My point exactly. Trying to influence others by projecting negative opinions on the subject may do more harm than good if it means people delay trying methods that can literally change their lives.
    Last edited by nh2489; 26-05-2016 at 20:44.

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    In all honesty, does anyone really get truly "offended" by what other people post on BubHub? Do you really care what someone you don't know/have never met/will never meet, thinks or says about something you've written?

    I love BubHub. I certainly waste a fair bit of time on here. I find it interesting, sometimes informative, many times entertaining, occasionally a bit too sterile, often times very irritating and repetitive. But, I keep coming back

    As I've said, I did CIO and CC with both my children, not that I knew that terminology at the time. Do I give a rat's @rse if someone on here proclaims that I parented incorrectly, and/or have damaged my children irreparably? Nup. Am I interested in people's thoughts on the topic? Absolutely. With caveats. Some people crap on about how great they are, and that gets boring.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J37 View Post
    In all honesty, does anyone really get truly "offended" by what other people post on BubHub? Do you really care what someone you don't know/have never met/will never meet, thinks or says about something you've written?

    I love BubHub. I certainly waste a fair bit of time on here. I find it interesting, sometimes informative, many times entertaining, occasionally a bit too sterile, often times very irritating and repetitive. But, I keep coming back

    As I've said, I did CIO and CC with both my children, not that I knew that terminology at the time. Do I give a rat's @rse if someone on here proclaims that I parented incorrectly, and/or have damaged my children irreparably? Nup. Am I interested in people's thoughts on the topic? Absolutely. With caveats. Some people crap on about how great they are, and that gets boring.

    Aaaah BubHub. Gotta love it.

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    Depends on the day. Some days I'm offended, some days I could care less what others say on here.

    It's my first kid tho, I reckon by #2 I won't give a rats ****. 😂

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    Quote Originally Posted by J37 View Post
    In all honesty, does anyone really get truly "offended" by what other people post on BubHub? Do you really care what someone you don't know/have never met/will never meet, thinks or says about something you've written?

    I love BubHub. I certainly waste a fair bit of time on here. I find it interesting, sometimes informative, many times entertaining, occasionally a bit too sterile, often times very irritating and repetitive. But, I keep coming back

    As I've said, I did CIO and CC with both my children, not that I knew that terminology at the time. Do I give a rat's @rse if someone on here proclaims that I parented incorrectly, and/or have damaged my children irreparably? Nup. Am I interested in people's thoughts on the topic? Absolutely. With caveats. Some people crap on about how great they are, and that gets boring.

    Aaaah BubHub. Gotta love it.

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    There's a difference between someone saying "hey that's not my style and I don't particularly think you're a great parent for choosing that" and "what you are doing could be causing your child longterm psychological harm". The latter type comments certainly do influence people and can make them change their ideas which may lead to stress, pnd etc from chronic sleep deprivation. Do I care if somebody makes a comment that implies I am doing cc as I'm selfishly trying to get a better nights sleep and taking a "parent led" approach? Not really but I have been very upset and felt huge guilt for wondering if I've done something awful to my child by reading comments on the damage caused to my child made in threads like this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by J37 View Post
    In all honesty, does anyone really get truly "offended" by what other people post on BubHub? Do you really care what someone you don't know/have never met/will never meet, thinks or says about something you've written?

    I love BubHub. I certainly waste a fair bit of time on here. I find it interesting, sometimes informative, many times entertaining, occasionally a bit too sterile, often times very irritating and repetitive. But, I keep coming back

    As I've said, I did CIO and CC with both my children, not that I knew that terminology at the time. Do I give a rat's @rse if someone on here proclaims that I parented incorrectly, and/or have damaged my children irreparably? Nup. Am I interested in people's thoughts on the topic? Absolutely. With caveats. Some people crap on about how great they are, and that gets boring.

    Aaaah BubHub. Gotta love it.

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    not offended but some posts have made me second guess myself. I'm pretty confident and always go with my intuition and it's rarely, if ever, let me down. but as others have said, something someone says on a day where you're tired/off/emotional and it can definitely catch you out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    it happened this morning actually as we were driving dh to work. ds started crying on the westgate. what can we do? nothing. just patted him from my seat and tried to shush him/comfort him with words. then he dropped off to sleep!
    Sometimes bubs cry non emotional cries as a way of winding down and putting themselves to sleep. Interfere with that and you interfere with sleep!

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    Quote Originally Posted by J37 View Post
    In all honesty, does anyone really get truly "offended" by what other people post on BubHub? Do you really care what someone you don't know/have never met/will never meet, thinks or says about something you've written?
    I don't really get offended so much as just p'd off at pereceived arrogance and cattiness. Sometimes I do get worried that mums in more vulnerable situations might be offended.

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    I found the study to be quite ridiculous, 43 babies??

    This article was very interesting and really makes much more sense to me.

    http://www.*******.com.au/baby/baby-...aign=editorial


 

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