There is a massive difference between making kids and babies comfortable IE temp/full tummies/clean bums and leaving them to cry. The first is called parenting. Most if not all parents ensure that. The second......
I have very strong opinions on this topic.
I have not nor ever will leave my children to cry. Especially not at bedtime. I will sit next to my child throwing a tantrum to offer silent support. I will pat/shush/rock/bedshare/comfort them however they wish.
Crying is the only way babies can communicate. Since I won't walk out on an adult talking to me, I won't walk out on a child. I will not see nor leave an adult crying without offering support, I will certainly not do that to my child.
Yes I get tired. But I'd rather me be tired than my child doubt my support.
So. Yes... flame away. I don't care. My kids come first. There is always coffee and eye concealer in my house. My babies will grow up eventually and I doubt on the day I die I will wish I cuddled them less.