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    I too am liking the mums at my daughter's school. Unless you are prepared to be friendly- you will miss out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaybaby View Post
    It always suprises me that many people write off the "school mums" as a friendship source. I have made some incredible friends from my children's school. Actually I am going to Bali on Thurs with a group of 8 mums who I love to bits and have been friends with for 6yrs. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and don't have to be a bestie. My school mums group are all very different and all bring different things to my life and all have their place. I'm a single mum now, so friendship is very important.
    Same. I would be so lost without my school mum friends. They are the people I see the most. We look out for each other and understand each other. I was always told how awful school mums are, but my experience is so different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I too am liking the mums at my daughter's school. Unless you are prepared to be friendly- you will miss out.
    Mine children are in year 6 and year 4. I have a few Mum friends from school and they are lovely. We used to do coffee on a fortnightly basis, but with people starting uni, work and kids getting older it is not so easy to get everyone together. So now it is more likely once every 6 months and occasionally I see them at school functions. The older the kids get at our school I find that the Mums don't go in and pick them up anymore. The older kids are either walking home or getting picked up at the front of the school. I pick mine up from the front of the school.

    I was overgeneralising in my OP, that all school Mums are brutal. Some of them are although they were never brutal to me, but the things they were saying about other Mums and children were horrible.

    Maybe it is more a logistical thing that actually not having friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I too am liking the mums at my daughter's school. Unless you are prepared to be friendly- you will miss out.
    I agree. I am a shy person person to start with and would rather people come to me first, but I just threw myself into the school mum circle when dd started last year and have met some lovely people and started inviting them over every few weeks for a cuppa and now we do dinners out kid free.

    I also joined a book club. I dont often get to read the book due to study but we spend about 10min talking about the book and 2hrs just chatting about random stuff once a month

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    Quote Originally Posted by PomPoms View Post
    Mine children are in year 6 and year 4. I have a few Mum friends from school and they are lovely. We used to do coffee on a fortnightly basis, but with people starting uni, work and kids getting older it is not so easy to get everyone together. So now it is more likely once every 6 months and occasionally I see them at school functions. The older the kids get at our school I find that the Mums don't go in and pick them up anymore. The older kids are either walking home or getting picked up at the front of the school. I pick mine up from the front of the school.

    I was overgeneralising in my OP, that all school Mums are brutal. Some of them are although they were never brutal to me, but the things they were saying about other Mums and children were horrible.

    Maybe it is more a logistical thing that actually not having friends.
    Yes. My kids are yr 5 and 7 - very hard to make school mum friends that late in the school career. All my school friends are from meeting in the Kindy/PP years and then continuing from there. Luckily
    my DS2 just started kindy this year and I have just organised a "Kindy mums dinner" for all the mums who want to come with full intention of developing a new friendship group. School friends are also a great way to keeping your finger on the pulse of what's going on at school 😊

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaybaby View Post
    School friends are also a great way to keeping your finger on the pulse of what's going on at school ������
    I do agree with this. It is amazing what one finds out through other Mums. We do keep in contact through text and facebook

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    I would rather hang out with my DP than anyone else. All of my friends live a long way away from me and I have no friends around where I live. I haven't bothered making friends at this school that my kids attend. We plan on moving back to where we used to live so I can't really be bothered making friends here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PomPoms View Post
    I was overgeneralising in my OP, that all school Mums are brutal. Some of them are although they were never brutal to me, but the things they were saying about other Mums and children were horrible.
    DD changed schools this year and there are a few mum's who seem really nice, but I've been wary of a few of the mums who are in their "sit together at pick up time" group. Rightly so, it turns out. You should have heard their comments about another mum when she turned up. "Look at that scrub! Oh my gawd, she's just feral." Some people are still back in high school! I'm glad I saw their true colours early on though.

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    Your DH does work a lot. That does make it hard. My DH has a job with fairly normal core hours, albeit with some long days thrown in. I find the days where he isn't home until late the hardest.

    I don't have a huge number of friends, and only one in my new town. I find it really hard to meet new people. It makes me anxious and uncomfortable. Expanding my social network is quite tricky for me. I try to speak to all of my friends who are interstate on a regular basis. Usually this is a phone call, or messaging via FB or Pinterest. Not the same as seeing them in person, but it helps keep me sane. An evening Skype session often helps to fill my cup if I can't do anything else.

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    Part of the reason we moved back from Melbourne to qld was friends. I have a great group of friends here from high school (20 years ago!). Making new friends as an adult is hard.

    DS1 is starting school next year and we are starting to mingle with other parents (from the kindergarten adjoining the school, our children will go to school together). It's still at that awkward stage though I think some informal events will be needed to get to know anyone any better. It's hard to know what people are really like when your only interactions are over kindy events and 5 yr old bday parties. I need a few wines and a bbq 😂.

    I do think it's healthy to have adult friendships though and worth persisting to find at least 1-2 other adults you really click with. I am so much happier if I have had a few friend catch ups as apposed to just hanging with family (which I also love). Especially important for me as DH travels for work so much.

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