When ds1 was 7 months I went back to work part time and being able to sit in a coffee shop over my lunch hour reading a book was heaven!! Now I've been a sahm for a year and a half with 2 little ones and the only down time j get is when they are in bed. My dh would take them out if I asked but he's not great at thinking ahead and offering so I just get into the habit of not bothering. Stupidly if I do get some alone time to go to dr appointment for example I end up rushing back as I feel guilty that I've left dh on his own with the 2 of them. Crazy I know as he's always fine but it means I dont actually enjoy the alone time. Can't wait to be in a position to go back to work and get some of the real me back.