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    Default Labouring completely alone (apart from medical staff)?

    Has anybody gone into labour and not had anyone come to the hospital with them and done it all on their own (eg no husband, partner, mum etc.)?

    My ex husband walked out on us when I was 7 wks pregnant and I'm due with no 2 in November and I'm wondering how the labour is going to go if I have no one there to support me. I've had to move down with my parents and have no friends or anything down here that would be able to come. Doula is out of the question cause I just can't afford it. And my mum, weLl, I'm considering it but to be honest I think she would cause me more stress than anything else. And my dad will be looking after my 3 yr old (plus I think it'd be a bit strange for him to be at the birth wouldn't it lol).

    So has anyone gone solo and found it ok? What would the hospital think?

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    Huge huge hugs. I haven't done it but am facing the prospect with the birth of DS3 in August. We moved interstate last year and have no network or family down here. DH will need to look after DS2 (3.5 years). My sister was supposed to be coming down but is no longer able to.

    I'd be interested to hear other people's stories too.

    In the meantime may be it helps to know you're not the only one.

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    I've hear people mention student doulas that are cheap/free. Might be an option?

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    Thanks binnielici I'm sorry you are in a similar position it's quiet scary to think about!!!

    If anyone knows of any student Doulas in port macqaurie I'd be very interested!

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    You could look at a student midwife or doula, that wouldn't cost you anything.

    I have considered this as a possibility with baby number 3 due in 2 weeks. I could easily be half an hour from DH when I go into labour. My last labour was under 2 hours, so he might not get there. Last time he was asleep except for the drive to hospital and birth - about 30 minutes, and stood on the other side of the bed while I gave birth to DD2.

    I am more worried about support afterwards if he was to miss it because he was interstate. I loved being able to lie there while he dressed/weighed etc Bub.

    It sounds like in your situation you'll have people after, so I would be happy. But I like to be left alone the whole time to do my thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ruby_Tuesday15 View Post
    I've hear people mention student doulas that are cheap/free. Might be an option?
    This. There are always midwifery students looking as they need to follow about 15-20 pregnancies throughout the course of their study. They are free.

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    Are they allowed to if the pregnancy is high risk? I am extremely high risk and haven't seen a single midwife yet only OBs

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    My first I was alone for most of it. I was induced. I went through 7 hours on my own as hubby was away. Complications started happening and it was nearing a point where C/sec was going to be done and due to a few reasons it would have been done under a general so they wanted someone there as a proxy for me while I was out. So they called my mother down.
    It turns out everything settled and I finished off labour and birth with my mother there. She was horrible and I really regret having her there so I would have absolutely preferred to stay on my own.

    My next 3 babies my husband was there and it was absolutely better but on my own was doable.

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    @mamaoftwo it would be a great learning experience to have a student midwife follow your pregnancy if you are high risk. If you are interested, ask at your hospital which university they have students from.

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    Default Labouring completely alone (apart from medical staff)?

    I was alone for my twins birth last month as my labour was too quick for my husband to make it to the hospital. I wasn't too worried other than being disappointed that he missed out on seeing them be born. The midwives and Drs were all good so I didn't feel alone or anything.


 

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