I can see this as one those issues I do a compete 180 on as a result of Bubhub.
Yes if it stops people aborting unwanted embryos maybe it should be allowed.
I suspect I'm probably going to change my view by the end of this thread. I was also thinking about terminations when someone finds out they're having a boy/girl and they'd rather the opposite. I am very much pro choice when it comes to terminations, even in cases of social reasons. I might not do it myself but I agree the option should be available. Therefore I think I should also be pro gender selection for the same reasons. I don't know.
I'm not sure about the "my body, my choice" argument though. This isn't about pregnancy. This is separate and is more a "my family/life, my choice" IMO.
On the IVF thing, for me it's different again if a couple who has gone through IVF to have children has "leftover" embryos and decides to have another child. These embryos are already made and I have zero issues with them choosing one that is a specific sex because they want to rather than just going with chance. I guess my reluctance lies solely with the process of undergoing the actual creation of an embryo to "make" a specific sex.
My first thought was no way.
I typed up a massive post about the biological and demographic consequences of gender imbalances in populations, strong gender bias for boys in Asia, the middle east and north Africa and a preference in Western society for girls.
However it occurred to me that a huge swing to females or males in a society could be a natural form of population control. That in itself is not a bad thing as the earth is overpopulated.
I do have concerns about couples accessing IVF for nonmedical reasons and the strain on an already overburdened medical system.
I'm now on the fence.
A few years ago I would've been hell bent against it, however I don't really know where I stand now.
As a same sex couple who used IVF, I basically had to shop for our donor, we chose someone with features we desired (although we chose based on DPs features so if we could've conceived naturally I'm sure DS would've looked fairly similar!) and I'm sure there are people who are against that idea and probably also against same sex couples having access to IVF at all.
I think if a family want to select sex based on already having two or three of one sex, I'm not really opposed to it (although don't think it should be Medicare funded).
But I'm a bit hazy on it all. I desperately wanted a daughter and I'm so happy belly babe is a girl, so I guess I can't understand what it is like to really experience gender disappointment. I do think if Bub had been a boy I would've been really holding onto every hope I had that a third would be a girl and so I can understand people would rather choose than go through feelings of regret and sadness if they conceived another baby that wasn't their desired sex.
It's a grey area for me.
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