I am insulted by those that have said they believe those who are in favour of gender selection are mentally unwell.
I respect others opinions in saying it is not something they would do and they do not believe in it. I have not insulted you or had a go at yr opinions. They are your opinions after all.
But why insult others who have a different opinion., walk in different shoes and remove their right to choose if they wish to go down the path of gender selection, My body., my choice.
Last edited by kylie764; 24-05-2016 at 04:05.
Many people have expressed how their GD has affected their mental wellbeing (not necessarily in this thread but on bh in general).
I have my sister visiting at the moment and she told me yesterday that our cousin has outright said she hates her 2yo daughter because she is a girl (has 3 boys also) and can't bond or relate to her. Her GD is very real and I think that if it's to the point where you hate your child then the state of your mental health needs accessing and you need professional help to work through it.
I am pro-choice when it comes to abortion, and yes, in this instance it is "my body, my choice".
But I don't see how that same argument is applicable in any way to pre-implantation gender selection. Said embryo could claim "my gender, my right to exist".
To be pregnant by choice IS the choice.
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I personally do not understand GD. I think any happy healthy child is a gift and to me, to be upset that you got a child of the gender you didn't want, well it just seems mighty ungrateful. I obviously do not comprehend the ramifications of GD though.
I think the biggest misconception is that you are disappointed with what you got. It's more you're disappointed with what you didn't get if that makes sense? Having a girl and two boys, I will say that whilst all my children are different, there is also quite a difference between the sexes. Both are wonderful, and I am so thankful that I am able able to experience both because that was very important to me. It's wonderful if you're happy with whatever genders you get, because I wouldn't wish GD on anyone. It's a lonely place to be.
And also, although I wholeheartedly support PGD for gender selection in Australia, I wouldn't say it's a "my body my choice" situation but I know what PP means. To me it's more about defining what your reproductive rights are and whether you should be able to access technology that doesn't seem less ethically muddy than what is already legal.
Sadly, I feel like this is almost a moot point with NIPTs being able to identity sex at 10 weeks. If someone is unwell enough to terminate due to sex (and I'll concede I think someone who does that IS mentally unwell) - they can do it now.
And it's likely NOT someone who has gone through IVF. 1) Most people who have struggled with infertility would be over the moon with any healthy child - irrespective if they had a preference for one sex; 2) it would be too expensive for most; and 3) I think a FS would clue in eventually.
People have said that sever Gender Disappointment CAN be a mental health disorder, and people who have a termination based on gender alone are perhaps suffering from severe cases of this.
People are simply trying to get others to understand more the issues of gender disappointment and how those people feel.
For the record - I support gender selection - am not mentally unwell - and have never suffered gender disappointment
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