I certainly had no opposition to access and friends in a similar boat experienced the same - not an eyelid battered... we went through IVF as well - not sure if your comment is meant to explain your particular situation, but a healthy baby was important to us also and I am pretty sure most other people (hence the testing) and we would never have aborted based on gender - abnormalities would have been a different issue given we already had 2 girls and quality of life is important to us. Also not to say nothing will ever happen to our kids in the future - touch wood. I know I just would have needed extra support to wrap my head around having 3 girls and $600 was not prohibitive to enable me to do that. Everyone has a different story though. I guess thats the point. Unless You have been there you can empathise, but you dont know the complexities of others situations - also not saying thats your assertion.
Last edited by KitiK; 22-05-2016 at 17:54.
This is a really interesting thread. I have to say though that I'm getting more inclined to say it should be illegal for non medical reasons. This is a real disorder by the sounds of things and should therefore be treated by professionals for the sake of the children.
I've worked with people who are transgender so I guess my mind goes to them and vulnerable people like them. Imagine growing up knowing your parents paid thousands of dollars for you to be a certain gender and then realising you had gender identity issues? It doesn't bear thinking about. I just think this is too high a burden to place on a child to be a certain way.
The number would be so small. I don't know for a fact just my gut feeling.
Clementine Grace (23-05-2016)
I find the assumption that parents who want a certain gender are psychologically unwell rather insulting.
I don't think that because you chose to select and transfer an embryo of a certain sex, you are unwell. Nor are you if you're a bit disappointed that the child you've conceived isn't your gender choice.
What is wrong are people who abort a healthy baby which isn't the sex they want. That is crossing a line; a big fat red line. As is discarding unused embryos only because they are the "wrong" sex.
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